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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i were mute hanging them in here
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: before halloween it was crazy but we
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: hey guys welcome to another episode of
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: october at the conference which was the
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: a wheelchair user and travel lover she
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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: in any way um we feel as
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: it was beautiful honestly and i mean
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[kristy_durso]: need

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i want to go through the story
but i definitely don't want to go through

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: any like i don't want to say
anything that you don't want to say or

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[kristy_durso]: oh you

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[kristy_durso]: are

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[kristy_durso]: welcome to share

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: okay perfect so we're at the conference
we're all setting off and you know we

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: here's someone you know storming and she
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: and she every right to be a
man and that was

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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: miss christie that's how we met her
my

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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: hearing is not the best thing i
heard her was like who set something's going

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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: but she came in there and screamed
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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i can't remember what the words

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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: where i need help i need ten
guys or whoever we need to go now

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: and literally without hesitation nobody in this

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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: area knows each other yet that i'm
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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: literally

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[kristy_durso]: a

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: everything just dropped and people

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: just formed a whole

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[kristy_durso]: ye

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: circle literally i was like a gang
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[kristy_durso]: yes

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's the military

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: family end of it it just

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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: like it just happens and just do
it like i don't know you from a

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: hole all literally i didn't know the
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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: is next to me that as about
to go fight somebody with was like dude

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: what's up let's go we had no
clue but

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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: what happened when we got

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[kristy_durso]: ah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: down to the hotel i let you
explain more in detail but the basics of

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: it were that you asked for help
you were pretty much shunned told you yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: whatever have a good day and you're
not a lot out of your room until

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: we come and get you so i
almost

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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: threw up because i was

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[kristy_durso]: ah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: like i'm going to hit somebody in
the face real fast eve though i'm

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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: very quiet but the accessibility issues for
you to get into the room to even

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: get up to the room too now
close the shades to go

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[kristy_durso]: she

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to the bathroom to use the bathroom
to get out of the room like what

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: if there's a fire like it's lost
vegas like ship happens if you're trapped

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[kristy_durso]: yeah

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: in there how do you get out
so but would you mind just going more

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: into like kind of detail about that
and kind

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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: of what came out

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[kristy_durso]: oh

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: of that

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[kristy_durso]: absolutely

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: bsoliwant

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[kristy_durso]: i want to start off by saying
this hotel

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: hotel

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[kristy_durso]: was only

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: was

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[kristy_durso]: a

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: only

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[kristy_durso]: year

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: a year

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[kristy_durso]: old they

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: they

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[kristy_durso]: passed

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: passed

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[kristy_durso]: every single

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: every single

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[kristy_durso]: inspection

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: section

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[kristy_durso]: they had

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: they

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[kristy_durso]: to pass

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: had to pass

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[kristy_durso]: their da codes are up to date
their adacredicredidation

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: emanation

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[kristy_durso]: is up to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: up

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[kristy_durso]: date

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to date

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[kristy_durso]: however i could not

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i could not

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[kristy_durso]: open the door to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: there

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[kristy_durso]: my room by myself

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: myself

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[kristy_durso]: i couldn't

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: couldn't

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[kristy_durso]: open and close the blinds

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

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[kristy_durso]: to my

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

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[kristy_durso]: room by myself

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: myself

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[kristy_durso]: and i couldn't reach the soap in
the shower from the shower bunch a full

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[kristy_durso]: time wheel chair user i could not
get to those spaces i didn't

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

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[kristy_durso]: have

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: did

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[kristy_durso]: enough

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: have

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[kristy_durso]: strength to open that door

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

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[kristy_durso]: for

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: door

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[kristy_durso]: my chair

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: my

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[kristy_durso]: because

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: chair

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[kristy_durso]: the pressure

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: fresh

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[kristy_durso]: was so

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: was

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[kristy_durso]: high the hotel

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: hotel

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[kristy_durso]: solution

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: solution

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[kristy_durso]: to this

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to this

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[kristy_durso]: was to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: she

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[kristy_durso]: have me come to the

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: coach

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[kristy_durso]: front desk

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: the desk

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[kristy_durso]: when i wanted

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: when i

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[kristy_durso]: to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: wanted

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[kristy_durso]: go

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to go

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[kristy_durso]: into my

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: into

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[kristy_durso]: room

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: my room

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[kristy_durso]: and to call

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to call

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[kristy_durso]: them

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: them

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[kristy_durso]: when i wanted

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: when i

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[kristy_durso]: to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: wanted

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[kristy_durso]: leave

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

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[kristy_durso]: my room and to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

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[kristy_durso]: call

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

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[kristy_durso]: them

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: call

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[kristy_durso]: when

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: him

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[kristy_durso]: i was ready for them to come
open

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: open

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[kristy_durso]: and close

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

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[kristy_durso]: the

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: close

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[kristy_durso]: blinds for

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: it

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[kristy_durso]: me

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: sounds like prison

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[kristy_durso]: it really

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

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[kristy_durso]: does no

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

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[kristy_durso]: other

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: her

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[kristy_durso]: person

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: person

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[kristy_durso]: would be expected

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: we expected

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[kristy_durso]: to put

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

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[kristy_durso]: up with that kind of accommodation not
not anybody

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: any

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[kristy_durso]: oh so why is that okay to
make somebody with a disability due and i

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[kristy_durso]: have consulted with an attorney and there
is

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: there

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[kristy_durso]: a

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: is

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[kristy_durso]: problem with the

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: with

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[kristy_durso]: way

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: the way

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[kristy_durso]: things are

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: things

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[kristy_durso]: currently written and i'm working to get
that change the a d a

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: he

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[kristy_durso]: actually

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: actually

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[kristy_durso]: does have

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: have

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[kristy_durso]: something in it where a door is
not supposed to have more than five pound

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[kristy_durso]: the pressure to open it there shouldn't
be

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: should

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[kristy_durso]: any excessive

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: be

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[kristy_durso]: twisting

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

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[kristy_durso]: force anything else i should be

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: should

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[kristy_durso]: able to

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: be

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[kristy_durso]: open that door with one

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[derek_potheadparent_com]: one

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[kristy_durso]: hand

455
00:10:10,785 --> 00:10:11,340
[derek_potheadparent_com]: hm

456
00:10:11,828 --> 00:10:12,148
[kristy_durso]: that is

457
00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:12,583
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i just

458
00:10:12,809 --> 00:10:13,230
[kristy_durso]: however

459
00:10:13,471 --> 00:10:13,692
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ever

460
00:10:13,731 --> 00:10:15,754
[kristy_durso]: trumped if it's a fire coated

461
00:10:15,582 --> 00:10:15,823
[derek_potheadparent_com]: fire

462
00:10:15,854 --> 00:10:17,397
[kristy_durso]: door then the fire

463
00:10:17,401 --> 00:10:17,462
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

464
00:10:17,457 --> 00:10:17,697
[kristy_durso]: code

465
00:10:17,563 --> 00:10:17,805
[derek_potheadparent_com]: fire

466
00:10:17,798 --> 00:10:20,041
[kristy_durso]: takes over this was never

467
00:10:19,980 --> 00:10:20,160
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it was

468
00:10:20,242 --> 00:10:21,103
[kristy_durso]: meant to be

469
00:10:21,203 --> 00:10:21,504
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to be

470
00:10:21,784 --> 00:10:22,225
[kristy_durso]: a gap

471
00:10:22,426 --> 00:10:22,486
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

472
00:10:22,465 --> 00:10:24,328
[kristy_durso]: in that that's not

473
00:10:24,351 --> 00:10:24,531
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's

474
00:10:24,368 --> 00:10:24,469
[kristy_durso]: how

475
00:10:24,612 --> 00:10:24,752
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not

476
00:10:24,809 --> 00:10:25,651
[kristy_durso]: the fire marshals

477
00:10:25,655 --> 00:10:26,838
[derek_potheadparent_com]: mercia

478
00:10:25,851 --> 00:10:27,594
[kristy_durso]: designed it they just

479
00:10:27,750 --> 00:10:27,971
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

480
00:10:28,055 --> 00:10:28,956
[kristy_durso]: have a requirement

481
00:10:28,492 --> 00:10:28,653
[derek_potheadparent_com]: how

482
00:10:29,016 --> 00:10:33,203
[kristy_durso]: for fire coded doors to have a
certain amount of pressure what was forgotten in

483
00:10:33,243 --> 00:10:34,005
[kristy_durso]: the process

484
00:10:33,586 --> 00:10:34,368
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in the process

485
00:10:35,247 --> 00:10:35,627
[kristy_durso]: was that

486
00:10:35,900 --> 00:10:36,040
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

487
00:10:35,948 --> 00:10:39,894
[kristy_durso]: with disabilities aren't going to be able
to open that heavy of a door really

488
00:10:39,954 --> 00:10:40,455
[kristy_durso]: honestly

489
00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:40,865
[derek_potheadparent_com]: really honestly

490
00:10:41,717 --> 00:10:42,338
[kristy_durso]: people without

491
00:10:42,270 --> 00:10:42,370
[derek_potheadparent_com]: but

492
00:10:42,419 --> 00:10:43,020
[kristy_durso]: disabilities

493
00:10:42,430 --> 00:10:42,751
[derek_potheadparent_com]: without

494
00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:43,761
[kristy_durso]: if you were to

495
00:10:43,693 --> 00:10:43,993
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you are

496
00:10:43,901 --> 00:10:44,141
[kristy_durso]: sit in

497
00:10:44,094 --> 00:10:44,174
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

498
00:10:44,181 --> 00:10:44,602
[kristy_durso]: my chair

499
00:10:44,595 --> 00:10:44,675
[derek_potheadparent_com]: my

500
00:10:44,642 --> 00:10:44,903
[kristy_durso]: and try

501
00:10:44,815 --> 00:10:44,976
[derek_potheadparent_com]: chair

502
00:10:45,003 --> 00:10:45,063
[kristy_durso]: to

503
00:10:45,056 --> 00:10:45,136
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

504
00:10:45,143 --> 00:10:45,303
[kristy_durso]: open

505
00:10:45,216 --> 00:10:45,316
[derek_potheadparent_com]: try

506
00:10:45,363 --> 00:10:45,484
[kristy_durso]: that

507
00:10:45,417 --> 00:10:45,737
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to open

508
00:10:45,564 --> 00:10:45,804
[kristy_durso]: door

509
00:10:45,797 --> 00:10:46,178
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that door

510
00:10:46,465 --> 00:10:48,773
[kristy_durso]: you would struggle with as well because

511
00:10:48,743 --> 00:10:48,883
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

512
00:10:48,793 --> 00:10:48,954
[kristy_durso]: you're

513
00:10:48,903 --> 00:10:49,043
[derek_potheadparent_com]: this

514
00:10:49,035 --> 00:10:49,135
[kristy_durso]: not

515
00:10:49,223 --> 00:10:49,464
[derek_potheadparent_com]: heavy

516
00:10:49,357 --> 00:10:49,679
[kristy_durso]: you're not

517
00:10:49,724 --> 00:10:49,824
[derek_potheadparent_com]: they

518
00:10:49,759 --> 00:10:49,920
[kristy_durso]: able

519
00:10:49,865 --> 00:10:49,925
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are

520
00:10:49,980 --> 00:10:50,061
[kristy_durso]: to

521
00:10:50,005 --> 00:10:51,828
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not i struggle with

522
00:10:51,848 --> 00:10:52,030
[kristy_durso]: yeah

523
00:10:51,888 --> 00:10:55,314
[derek_potheadparent_com]: austrolain vegas the doors here are like
five times the weight i feel like i

524
00:10:55,394 --> 00:10:56,656
[derek_potheadparent_com]: open them up and like holy ship

525
00:10:56,668 --> 00:10:56,991
[kristy_durso]: yeah

526
00:10:56,796 --> 00:10:59,309
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like what is this thing made out
of it's crazy right yeah

527
00:10:59,158 --> 00:11:01,442
[kristy_durso]: yeah exactly and you know it's actually
a really

528
00:11:01,258 --> 00:11:01,539
[derek_potheadparent_com]: actually

529
00:11:01,502 --> 00:11:01,762
[kristy_durso]: simple

530
00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:01,902
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a really

531
00:11:01,823 --> 00:11:03,225
[kristy_durso]: solution it's not what

532
00:11:03,210 --> 00:11:03,310
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's

533
00:11:03,245 --> 00:11:03,345
[kristy_durso]: the

534
00:11:03,370 --> 00:11:03,491
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not

535
00:11:03,385 --> 00:11:03,526
[kristy_durso]: door

536
00:11:03,531 --> 00:11:03,652
[derek_potheadparent_com]: what

537
00:11:03,586 --> 00:11:03,666
[kristy_durso]: is

538
00:11:03,692 --> 00:11:03,772
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

539
00:11:03,766 --> 00:11:03,946
[kristy_durso]: made

540
00:11:03,812 --> 00:11:03,993
[derek_potheadparent_com]: door

541
00:11:04,027 --> 00:11:11,832
[kristy_durso]: out of there is an adjustable pressure
valve that's it you can adjust that pressure

542
00:11:12,053 --> 00:11:12,916
[kristy_durso]: if you have an allen key

543
00:11:13,555 --> 00:11:14,538
[derek_potheadparent_com]: takes at two seconds

544
00:11:15,348 --> 00:11:17,733
[kristy_durso]: exactly exactly they

545
00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:17,881
[derek_potheadparent_com]: did they

546
00:11:17,833 --> 00:11:18,254
[kristy_durso]: refused

547
00:11:18,001 --> 00:11:18,262
[derek_potheadparent_com]: do that

548
00:11:18,314 --> 00:11:18,394
[kristy_durso]: to

549
00:11:18,322 --> 00:11:18,583
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i can't

550
00:11:18,454 --> 00:11:18,714
[kristy_durso]: do it

551
00:11:18,643 --> 00:11:20,970
[derek_potheadparent_com]: remember did they do that for you
or did you try to get

552
00:11:20,928 --> 00:11:21,068
[kristy_durso]: not

553
00:11:20,990 --> 00:11:21,090
[derek_potheadparent_com]: them

554
00:11:21,128 --> 00:11:21,168
[kristy_durso]: at

555
00:11:21,151 --> 00:11:21,211
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

556
00:11:21,248 --> 00:11:21,509
[kristy_durso]: first

557
00:11:21,251 --> 00:11:21,471
[derek_potheadparent_com]: do that

558
00:11:22,150 --> 00:11:22,530
[kristy_durso]: i tried

559
00:11:22,394 --> 00:11:22,555
[derek_potheadparent_com]: okay

560
00:11:22,610 --> 00:11:26,677
[kristy_durso]: to get them to do it for
me it took me two days to finally

561
00:11:26,694 --> 00:11:27,075
[derek_potheadparent_com]: finally

562
00:11:26,737 --> 00:11:27,438
[kristy_durso]: get it to where

563
00:11:27,376 --> 00:11:27,396
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

564
00:11:27,639 --> 00:11:31,666
[kristy_durso]: i could open it with one arm
without risking hurting myself

565
00:11:33,060 --> 00:11:33,900
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

566
00:11:33,549 --> 00:11:34,350
[kristy_durso]: but they didn't

567
00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:34,460
[derek_potheadparent_com]: they

568
00:11:34,390 --> 00:11:34,530
[kristy_durso]: want

569
00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:34,721
[derek_potheadparent_com]: didn't

570
00:11:34,590 --> 00:11:34,791
[kristy_durso]: to do

571
00:11:34,801 --> 00:11:34,941
[derek_potheadparent_com]: want

572
00:11:34,831 --> 00:11:34,991
[kristy_durso]: it at

573
00:11:34,981 --> 00:11:35,061
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

574
00:11:35,031 --> 00:11:35,231
[kristy_durso]: first

575
00:11:35,121 --> 00:11:35,281
[derek_potheadparent_com]: do it

576
00:11:35,292 --> 00:11:35,532
[kristy_durso]: because

577
00:11:35,341 --> 00:11:35,602
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at first

578
00:11:35,552 --> 00:11:36,133
[kristy_durso]: they wanted

579
00:11:36,002 --> 00:11:36,042
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he

580
00:11:36,373 --> 00:11:38,837
[kristy_durso]: to meet the fire code so what's
missing

581
00:11:38,686 --> 00:11:38,886
[derek_potheadparent_com]: what's

582
00:11:38,878 --> 00:11:38,998
[kristy_durso]: with

583
00:11:38,947 --> 00:11:39,207
[derek_potheadparent_com]: missing

584
00:11:39,018 --> 00:11:39,438
[kristy_durso]: that fire

585
00:11:39,327 --> 00:11:39,547
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

586
00:11:39,519 --> 00:11:39,799
[kristy_durso]: code

587
00:11:39,608 --> 00:11:39,848
[derek_potheadparent_com]: fire

588
00:11:40,019 --> 00:11:41,322
[kristy_durso]: is providing a

589
00:11:41,350 --> 00:11:41,390
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

590
00:11:41,362 --> 00:11:42,023
[kristy_durso]: way for somebody

591
00:11:41,751 --> 00:11:42,031
[derek_potheadparent_com]: wait for

592
00:11:42,083 --> 00:11:46,171
[kristy_durso]: with a disability to be able to
open a door that is fired coded which

593
00:11:46,251 --> 00:11:46,471
[kristy_durso]: means

594
00:11:46,378 --> 00:11:46,518
[derek_potheadparent_com]: which

595
00:11:46,512 --> 00:11:46,612
[kristy_durso]: that

596
00:11:46,639 --> 00:11:46,819
[derek_potheadparent_com]: means

597
00:11:46,652 --> 00:11:47,093
[kristy_durso]: they really

598
00:11:46,879 --> 00:11:46,979
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

599
00:11:47,253 --> 00:11:47,674
[kristy_durso]: should be

600
00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:47,841
[derek_potheadparent_com]: should

601
00:11:47,755 --> 00:11:48,436
[kristy_durso]: required to have

602
00:11:48,402 --> 00:11:48,422
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

603
00:11:48,476 --> 00:11:49,058
[kristy_durso]: an automatic

604
00:11:48,722 --> 00:11:49,143
[derek_potheadparent_com]: have on

605
00:11:49,178 --> 00:11:49,338
[kristy_durso]: door

606
00:11:49,243 --> 00:11:49,323
[derek_potheadparent_com]: my

607
00:11:49,539 --> 00:11:52,045
[kristy_durso]: opener on that so that we're able

608
00:11:52,048 --> 00:11:52,188
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we're

609
00:11:52,125 --> 00:11:52,185
[kristy_durso]: to

610
00:11:52,248 --> 00:11:52,428
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

611
00:11:52,285 --> 00:11:52,486
[kristy_durso]: open

612
00:11:52,488 --> 00:11:52,549
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

613
00:11:52,566 --> 00:11:56,392
[kristy_durso]: it and they just kind of skip
that sense and then common

614
00:11:56,123 --> 00:11:56,204
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

615
00:11:56,513 --> 00:11:58,836
[kristy_durso]: sense goes out the window hello

616
00:11:58,768 --> 00:11:58,968
[derek_potheadparent_com]: right

617
00:11:59,077 --> 00:12:01,962
[kristy_durso]: we still have a fire hazard here
if i can't get in and out

618
00:12:01,993 --> 00:12:02,053
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in

619
00:12:02,002 --> 00:12:02,182
[kristy_durso]: of my

620
00:12:02,113 --> 00:12:02,314
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and out

621
00:12:02,242 --> 00:12:04,065
[kristy_durso]: room that is the security issue

622
00:12:04,658 --> 00:12:04,918
[derek_potheadparent_com]: oh yeah

623
00:12:04,786 --> 00:12:05,929
[kristy_durso]: and a fire hazard

624
00:12:06,691 --> 00:12:06,892
[derek_potheadparent_com]: right

625
00:12:06,793 --> 00:12:08,589
[kristy_durso]: so i was very

626
00:12:08,550 --> 00:12:08,771
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i was

627
00:12:08,689 --> 00:12:09,030
[kristy_durso]: fortunate

628
00:12:08,851 --> 00:12:09,072
[derek_potheadparent_com]: very

629
00:12:09,070 --> 00:12:09,390
[kristy_durso]: actually

630
00:12:09,172 --> 00:12:09,494
[derek_potheadparent_com]: fortunate

631
00:12:09,430 --> 00:12:09,611
[kristy_durso]: on the

632
00:12:09,554 --> 00:12:09,835
[derek_potheadparent_com]: actually

633
00:12:09,671 --> 00:12:10,131
[kristy_durso]: way home

634
00:12:09,915 --> 00:12:10,497
[derek_potheadparent_com]: on the way home

635
00:12:11,033 --> 00:12:11,894
[kristy_durso]: to sit next

636
00:12:12,042 --> 00:12:12,346
[derek_potheadparent_com]: next

637
00:12:12,075 --> 00:12:12,215
[kristy_durso]: to

638
00:12:12,528 --> 00:12:12,650
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

639
00:12:13,177 --> 00:12:16,642
[kristy_durso]: a retired fire chief and we had
a very

640
00:12:16,500 --> 00:12:16,760
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we had

641
00:12:16,702 --> 00:12:16,883
[kristy_durso]: long

642
00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:16,820
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

643
00:12:16,943 --> 00:12:17,524
[kristy_durso]: conversation

644
00:12:17,121 --> 00:12:17,801
[derek_potheadparent_com]: long vers

645
00:12:17,624 --> 00:12:21,210
[kristy_durso]: about it and he is still in
content act with a lot of people who

646
00:12:21,331 --> 00:12:24,617
[kristy_durso]: write fire code and so he's going
to

647
00:12:24,708 --> 00:12:24,928
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going

648
00:12:24,818 --> 00:12:25,018
[kristy_durso]: help

649
00:12:24,968 --> 00:12:25,048
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

650
00:12:25,199 --> 00:12:25,319
[kristy_durso]: me

651
00:12:25,248 --> 00:12:25,509
[derek_potheadparent_com]: help

652
00:12:26,341 --> 00:12:28,706
[kristy_durso]: rewrite the fire code so that

653
00:12:28,967 --> 00:12:28,987
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

654
00:12:29,878 --> 00:12:34,543
[kristy_durso]: accessible rooms have to have that button
on them so that we can open the

655
00:12:34,583 --> 00:12:36,265
[kristy_durso]: doors if the door is fire coated

656
00:12:36,490 --> 00:12:37,892
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's awesome that's amazing

657
00:12:37,486 --> 00:12:37,606
[kristy_durso]: so

658
00:12:37,932 --> 00:12:41,178
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's i mean i'm really so i
bring this up over you episode because i'm

659
00:12:41,258 --> 00:12:50,633
[derek_potheadparent_com]: really into it like manifestation meaningful relationships
when you're actually you know open and clear

660
00:12:50,834 --> 00:12:53,358
[derek_potheadparent_com]: thoughts those people are there

661
00:12:53,692 --> 00:12:53,712
[kristy_durso]: a

662
00:12:54,260 --> 00:12:54,600
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's when

663
00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:54,643
[kristy_durso]: and

664
00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:54,881
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we're

665
00:12:54,765 --> 00:12:54,907
[kristy_durso]: it's

666
00:12:55,081 --> 00:12:55,722
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able to be

667
00:12:56,158 --> 00:12:56,398
[kristy_durso]: yeah

668
00:12:56,383 --> 00:13:02,654
[derek_potheadparent_com]: vocal and communicate with others and try
and create relationships that you know those people

669
00:13:02,734 --> 00:13:03,014
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that you

670
00:13:03,019 --> 00:13:03,241
[kristy_durso]: well

671
00:13:03,074 --> 00:13:07,982
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know if you're god or the universe
or whatever it is it's like

672
00:13:08,392 --> 00:13:08,554
[kristy_durso]: like

673
00:13:08,543 --> 00:13:10,527
[derek_potheadparent_com]: their place there for a reason

674
00:13:10,228 --> 00:13:10,508
[kristy_durso]: yeah

675
00:13:10,627 --> 00:13:14,874
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and so to hear that is so
beautiful to me that you know then to

676
00:13:14,914 --> 00:13:18,500
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be able to still work with him
and you know get these things taken care

677
00:13:18,560 --> 00:13:22,206
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of because like i said and he
said we were in shock

678
00:13:22,047 --> 00:13:22,448
[kristy_durso]: yeah yeah

679
00:13:22,908 --> 00:13:28,738
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the list that could just go on
and on and on about it and you

680
00:13:28,798 --> 00:13:37,562
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know i'm very sorry that people are
ignorant of you know those situations that you're

681
00:13:37,642 --> 00:13:42,069
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going through and it's not just you
clearly and for you

682
00:13:42,008 --> 00:13:42,068
[kristy_durso]: so

683
00:13:42,450 --> 00:13:48,440
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to take your mission of being able
to help others so that they can enjoy

684
00:13:48,580 --> 00:13:55,876
[derek_potheadparent_com]: themselves on trips or business or whatever
it needs so that they can live their

685
00:13:55,956 --> 00:13:58,927
[derek_potheadparent_com]: life to the fullest is fucking amazing

686
00:14:00,532 --> 00:14:01,013
[kristy_durso]: thank you

687
00:14:01,001 --> 00:14:01,182
[derek_potheadparent_com]: thank

688
00:14:01,193 --> 00:14:02,034
[kristy_durso]: thank you that means so

689
00:14:01,944 --> 00:14:02,044
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

690
00:14:02,095 --> 00:14:02,275
[kristy_durso]: much

691
00:14:02,125 --> 00:14:02,265
[derek_potheadparent_com]: man

692
00:14:02,335 --> 00:14:02,435
[kristy_durso]: to

693
00:14:02,346 --> 00:14:02,446
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

694
00:14:02,475 --> 00:14:02,535
[kristy_durso]: me

695
00:14:02,506 --> 00:14:03,008
[derek_potheadparent_com]: much short

696
00:14:04,081 --> 00:14:11,116
[kristy_durso]: what is not talked about enough people
don't realize that twenty six percent of the

697
00:14:11,157 --> 00:14:16,986
[kristy_durso]: population has a diagnosed disability twenty six
percent if you think about

698
00:14:16,998 --> 00:14:17,058
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in

699
00:14:17,046 --> 00:14:17,607
[kristy_durso]: that number

700
00:14:17,458 --> 00:14:18,019
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that number

701
00:14:18,628 --> 00:14:21,932
[kristy_durso]: that means basically every family if you

702
00:14:21,856 --> 00:14:22,137
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

703
00:14:22,032 --> 00:14:23,133
[kristy_durso]: take an average family

704
00:14:23,019 --> 00:14:23,220
[derek_potheadparent_com]: what you

705
00:14:23,173 --> 00:14:23,233
[kristy_durso]: of

706
00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:23,360
[derek_potheadparent_com]: tink

707
00:14:23,313 --> 00:14:23,534
[kristy_durso]: four

708
00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:23,641
[derek_potheadparent_com]: about

709
00:14:24,234 --> 00:14:26,597
[kristy_durso]: has at least one person with a
disability

710
00:14:27,490 --> 00:14:31,344
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i feel like we check a couple
of those on the like yeahtustma couple

711
00:14:31,250 --> 00:14:31,351
[kristy_durso]: i'm

712
00:14:31,425 --> 00:14:31,926
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of yer so

713
00:14:32,753 --> 00:14:32,873
[kristy_durso]: i'm

714
00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:33,040
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i mean

715
00:14:32,993 --> 00:14:33,514
[kristy_durso]: sure you do

716
00:14:34,282 --> 00:14:36,566
[derek_potheadparent_com]: well our son too it's i don't
if we did we tell you our son

717
00:14:36,626 --> 00:14:37,809
[derek_potheadparent_com]: has a disability i can't remember

718
00:14:38,903 --> 00:14:41,027
[kristy_durso]: you know i don't think we ever
got to talk about that

719
00:14:41,193 --> 00:14:44,359
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i didn't so this is even more
i mean so our son jackson

720
00:14:44,098 --> 00:14:44,399
[kristy_durso]: yeah

721
00:14:44,499 --> 00:14:47,444
[derek_potheadparent_com]: is he's three the day after christmas
so like eight days from now

722
00:14:48,339 --> 00:14:48,500
[kristy_durso]: oh

723
00:14:48,626 --> 00:14:53,596
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he was born extremely long story but
we were in the hospital with him months

724
00:14:53,656 --> 00:14:56,362
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at a time weeks at a time
he was born completely blind in his right

725
00:14:56,442 --> 00:14:56,503
[derek_potheadparent_com]: eye

726
00:14:57,334 --> 00:14:57,981
[kristy_durso]: oh my goodness

727
00:14:57,645 --> 00:15:00,471
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in his eye socket is actually smaller

728
00:15:00,559 --> 00:15:00,660
[kristy_durso]: so

729
00:15:00,651 --> 00:15:03,757
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and then he has a micro li
so his whole area over here like when

730
00:15:03,797 --> 00:15:06,581
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you obviously you look at him you
can tell you know he said that kid

731
00:15:06,661 --> 00:15:07,122
[derek_potheadparent_com]: stage kids

732
00:15:07,138 --> 00:15:07,398
[kristy_durso]: oh

733
00:15:07,162 --> 00:15:12,845
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are like ship here we go but
we're learning as a family as a dad

734
00:15:12,905 --> 00:15:16,562
[derek_potheadparent_com]: as a mom how to cope with
that and deal with that of like we

735
00:15:16,602 --> 00:15:19,846
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know it's coming like and he's at
that age now where he's going like this

736
00:15:20,507 --> 00:15:24,674
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i want to stop him real quick
i want to say that i think we

737
00:15:24,834 --> 00:15:31,066
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are past that coping stage i feel
like we've definitely embraced what

738
00:15:30,999 --> 00:15:31,079
[kristy_durso]: oh

739
00:15:31,386 --> 00:15:37,296
[derek_potheadparent_com]: is happened to jackson and now it's
explaining to him why we get it now

740
00:15:37,416 --> 00:15:40,541
[derek_potheadparent_com]: but he's at that point like i
was just saying they'll pull down different eyes

741
00:15:40,602 --> 00:15:40,682
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

742
00:15:40,618 --> 00:15:40,878
[kristy_durso]: yeah

743
00:15:40,722 --> 00:15:44,909
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i'm like ship like this conversation is
going to happen very soon he can tell

744
00:15:45,029 --> 00:15:45,349
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he can't

745
00:15:45,153 --> 00:15:45,233
[kristy_durso]: and

746
00:15:45,390 --> 00:15:45,790
[derek_potheadparent_com]: see out of the

747
00:15:45,735 --> 00:15:45,915
[kristy_durso]: yeah

748
00:15:45,810 --> 00:15:46,171
[derek_potheadparent_com]: other eye

749
00:15:46,988 --> 00:15:47,048
[kristy_durso]: and

750
00:15:47,112 --> 00:15:47,193
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

751
00:15:47,128 --> 00:15:47,228
[kristy_durso]: it's

752
00:15:47,233 --> 00:15:47,353
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he's

753
00:15:47,288 --> 00:15:48,951
[kristy_durso]: heart breaking when they realize

754
00:15:48,895 --> 00:15:48,996
[derek_potheadparent_com]: oh

755
00:15:49,031 --> 00:15:54,660
[kristy_durso]: they're different and they go through a
process or our youngest he's eleven not three

756
00:15:55,061 --> 00:15:55,983
[kristy_durso]: but as i mentioned

757
00:15:55,670 --> 00:15:56,291
[derek_potheadparent_com]: as i mentioned

758
00:15:56,063 --> 00:16:04,338
[kristy_durso]: he's cognitively and intellectually disabled is happening
a lot later for him but he you

759
00:16:04,398 --> 00:16:04,839
[kristy_durso]: can see

760
00:16:04,730 --> 00:16:04,851
[derek_potheadparent_com]: can

761
00:16:04,919 --> 00:16:04,979
[kristy_durso]: it

762
00:16:05,033 --> 00:16:05,194
[derek_potheadparent_com]: see

763
00:16:05,059 --> 00:16:06,361
[kristy_durso]: in him he says things

764
00:16:06,442 --> 00:16:06,704
[derek_potheadparent_com]: things

765
00:16:06,481 --> 00:16:06,642
[kristy_durso]: like

766
00:16:06,825 --> 00:16:06,986
[derek_potheadparent_com]: right

767
00:16:07,523 --> 00:16:07,864
[kristy_durso]: i want

768
00:16:07,851 --> 00:16:07,871
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

769
00:16:07,944 --> 00:16:08,024
[kristy_durso]: to

770
00:16:08,012 --> 00:16:08,214
[derek_potheadparent_com]: want

771
00:16:08,144 --> 00:16:08,224
[kristy_durso]: be

772
00:16:08,274 --> 00:16:08,355
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

773
00:16:08,405 --> 00:16:09,146
[kristy_durso]: like everybody

774
00:16:08,739 --> 00:16:08,860
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like

775
00:16:09,286 --> 00:16:09,506
[kristy_durso]: else

776
00:16:09,606 --> 00:16:09,828
[derek_potheadparent_com]: else

777
00:16:10,949 --> 00:16:11,230
[kristy_durso]: i don't

778
00:16:11,279 --> 00:16:11,299
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

779
00:16:11,370 --> 00:16:11,551
[kristy_durso]: want

780
00:16:11,683 --> 00:16:11,865
[derek_potheadparent_com]: want

781
00:16:11,872 --> 00:16:14,098
[kristy_durso]: to be different because he knows

782
00:16:13,860 --> 00:16:14,021
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's

783
00:16:14,238 --> 00:16:16,605
[kristy_durso]: now that he is and it's really
hard

784
00:16:17,662 --> 00:16:19,846
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's er yeah these words are

785
00:16:19,858 --> 00:16:20,140
[kristy_durso]: oh

786
00:16:19,886 --> 00:16:22,290
[derek_potheadparent_com]: coming soon and i'm just dreading

787
00:16:21,838 --> 00:16:22,558
[kristy_durso]: yeah

788
00:16:22,370 --> 00:16:23,412
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that day dreading

789
00:16:23,488 --> 00:16:23,788
[kristy_durso]: yeah

790
00:16:23,492 --> 00:16:30,864
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it it's taken me up until being
almost college to know that i was suffering

791
00:16:31,024 --> 00:16:31,245
[derek_potheadparent_com]: from

792
00:16:31,288 --> 00:16:31,571
[kristy_durso]: oh

793
00:16:32,066 --> 00:16:32,086
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

794
00:16:32,158 --> 00:16:32,358
[kristy_durso]: yeah

795
00:16:32,166 --> 00:16:36,634
[derek_potheadparent_com]: couple of learning disabilities and i have
really severe i

796
00:16:36,838 --> 00:16:38,019
[kristy_durso]: yeah

797
00:16:37,034 --> 00:16:43,445
[derek_potheadparent_com]: h d and i had no idea
until you know was in college until

798
00:16:43,519 --> 00:16:43,539
[kristy_durso]: i

799
00:16:43,545 --> 00:16:44,968
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we learned some of these things and
i

800
00:16:45,088 --> 00:16:45,370
[kristy_durso]: yeah

801
00:16:45,088 --> 00:16:49,135
[derek_potheadparent_com]: feel like you know with being on
the spectrum or with autos

802
00:16:49,318 --> 00:16:50,521
[kristy_durso]: he

803
00:16:49,736 --> 00:16:50,637
[derek_potheadparent_com]: people just don't

804
00:16:50,621 --> 00:16:50,761
[kristy_durso]: just

805
00:16:50,717 --> 00:16:56,687
[derek_potheadparent_com]: understand it and they create a taboo
on you know having you know h d

806
00:16:57,048 --> 00:16:57,529
[derek_potheadparent_com]: or being

807
00:16:57,557 --> 00:16:57,737
[kristy_durso]: work

808
00:16:57,609 --> 00:16:58,210
[derek_potheadparent_com]: by poler

809
00:16:58,002 --> 00:16:58,084
[kristy_durso]: and

810
00:16:58,470 --> 00:17:02,016
[derek_potheadparent_com]: or being on the spectrum that it's
like that was part

811
00:17:02,050 --> 00:17:02,213
[kristy_durso]: was

812
00:17:02,076 --> 00:17:02,817
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of the reason

813
00:17:03,178 --> 00:17:03,398
[kristy_durso]: yeah

814
00:17:03,258 --> 00:17:05,606
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we wanted to bring on as well
it's like

815
00:17:05,822 --> 00:17:06,002
[kristy_durso]: yeah

816
00:17:06,128 --> 00:17:13,958
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you can have all you can check
every fing box of whatever and

817
00:17:14,248 --> 00:17:14,349
[kristy_durso]: and

818
00:17:14,358 --> 00:17:14,859
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's what

819
00:17:14,912 --> 00:17:15,133
[kristy_durso]: that's

820
00:17:14,979 --> 00:17:15,260
[derek_potheadparent_com]: makes

821
00:17:15,233 --> 00:17:15,394
[kristy_durso]: what

822
00:17:15,380 --> 00:17:17,043
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you you and that's what

823
00:17:17,099 --> 00:17:17,742
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

824
00:17:17,163 --> 00:17:24,628
[derek_potheadparent_com]: makes you unique and just i'm leaving
them on so sorry

825
00:17:25,226 --> 00:17:25,386
[kristy_durso]: yeah

826
00:17:25,892 --> 00:17:29,691
[derek_potheadparent_com]: technical era and i just i feel
as

827
00:17:29,751 --> 00:17:29,992
[kristy_durso]: meal

828
00:17:29,791 --> 00:17:33,918
[derek_potheadparent_com]: though it took me until probably a
year or two

829
00:17:33,810 --> 00:17:34,115
[kristy_durso]: year

830
00:17:34,018 --> 00:17:35,581
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ago to really truly

831
00:17:35,528 --> 00:17:35,709
[kristy_durso]: it's

832
00:17:35,781 --> 00:17:43,794
[derek_potheadparent_com]: love myself for you know my corks
and my silliness and how i'm just always

833
00:17:43,875 --> 00:17:49,985
[derek_potheadparent_com]: on the go and you know squirrel
and you know i have you know i

834
00:17:50,325 --> 00:17:57,641
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know my weaknesses and work towards them
sorry i'm crying on and that

835
00:17:58,012 --> 00:17:58,033
[kristy_durso]: i

836
00:17:58,041 --> 00:17:58,783
[derek_potheadparent_com]: has made me

837
00:17:59,019 --> 00:17:59,120
[kristy_durso]: it

838
00:17:59,043 --> 00:18:01,708
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so fucking whole that it's allowed

839
00:18:01,493 --> 00:18:01,614
[kristy_durso]: it's

840
00:18:01,888 --> 00:18:02,970
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all these beautiful

841
00:18:02,460 --> 00:18:02,782
[kristy_durso]: all the

842
00:18:03,130 --> 00:18:04,652
[derek_potheadparent_com]: things to finally happen

843
00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:04,379
[kristy_durso]: i

844
00:18:04,813 --> 00:18:06,075
[derek_potheadparent_com]: for us and for

845
00:18:05,968 --> 00:18:06,228
[kristy_durso]: yeah

846
00:18:06,235 --> 00:18:11,564
[derek_potheadparent_com]: me to open my mind up so
that i'm not worried about what anyone else

847
00:18:11,664 --> 00:18:15,731
[derek_potheadparent_com]: fucking thinks about me and what i
am bringing to the table

848
00:18:15,857 --> 00:18:16,217
[kristy_durso]: table

849
00:18:16,332 --> 00:18:16,933
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i know is

850
00:18:16,838 --> 00:18:17,139
[kristy_durso]: you know

851
00:18:17,053 --> 00:18:20,178
[derek_potheadparent_com]: gold because it's mine and i'm doing
it myself

852
00:18:19,852 --> 00:18:20,636
[kristy_durso]: i myself

853
00:18:20,659 --> 00:18:23,392
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and i fully see that light from

854
00:18:23,544 --> 00:18:23,645
[kristy_durso]: it

855
00:18:23,552 --> 00:18:24,417
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you and it's

856
00:18:24,759 --> 00:18:25,228
[kristy_durso]: next

857
00:18:25,310 --> 00:18:26,131
[derek_potheadparent_com]: beautiful i'm gonna

858
00:18:26,148 --> 00:18:26,268
[kristy_durso]: oh

859
00:18:26,151 --> 00:18:30,678
[derek_potheadparent_com]: say that world a word a thousand
times about you because it's just it's you

860
00:18:30,759 --> 00:18:36,108
[derek_potheadparent_com]: can see that you have fully embraced
you and you love you for you and

861
00:18:36,188 --> 00:18:41,677
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you want others to feel that way
and you want others to also know that

862
00:18:41,737 --> 00:18:44,221
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that taboo of you know not

863
00:18:44,259 --> 00:18:44,401
[kristy_durso]: i'm

864
00:18:44,441 --> 00:18:44,882
[derek_potheadparent_com]: being

865
00:18:44,502 --> 00:18:44,725
[kristy_durso]: not

866
00:18:45,603 --> 00:18:50,233
[derek_potheadparent_com]: one hundred per cent perfect because i
don't think there's a person out there right

867
00:18:50,433 --> 00:18:54,643
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i mean so coote to you applaud
to you

868
00:18:54,703 --> 00:18:54,783
[kristy_durso]: on

869
00:18:54,763 --> 00:18:59,652
[derek_potheadparent_com]: because it's taken me a very long
time to get there for myself and to

870
00:18:59,732 --> 00:19:00,793
[derek_potheadparent_com]: see what you've done

871
00:19:00,468 --> 00:19:01,254
[kristy_durso]: what you've done

872
00:19:02,096 --> 00:19:03,538
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's very magical honestly

873
00:19:04,679 --> 00:19:05,221
[kristy_durso]: oh my gosh

874
00:19:05,111 --> 00:19:05,311
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ditto

875
00:19:05,342 --> 00:19:05,904
[kristy_durso]: thank you for

876
00:19:05,952 --> 00:19:06,193
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ditto

877
00:19:05,964 --> 00:19:06,165
[kristy_durso]: that

878
00:19:07,695 --> 00:19:10,961
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i'm not i'm not one for words
but one for words when you came in

879
00:19:11,021 --> 00:19:11,642
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that room i was like

880
00:19:12,208 --> 00:19:15,697
[kristy_durso]: yeah

881
00:19:12,363 --> 00:19:19,152
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it okay let's go and it opened
my eyes again you no it's the disability

882
00:19:19,233 --> 00:19:19,753
[derek_potheadparent_com]: aspect of it

883
00:19:19,804 --> 00:19:19,824
[kristy_durso]: s

884
00:19:19,814 --> 00:19:21,857
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like i mean how do you you
now if to

885
00:19:21,812 --> 00:19:21,872
[kristy_durso]: he

886
00:19:21,877 --> 00:19:25,403
[derek_potheadparent_com]: anser this question like how do you
prepare or maybe you don't anymore maybe you're

887
00:19:25,443 --> 00:19:25,663
[derek_potheadparent_com]: past

888
00:19:25,689 --> 00:19:25,750
[kristy_durso]: you

889
00:19:25,743 --> 00:19:28,929
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that stage of going out in public
like our son's eventual goin to get to

890
00:19:28,989 --> 00:19:30,794
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that stage he's on a be like
i don't want to go out any more

891
00:19:30,814 --> 00:19:34,487
[derek_potheadparent_com]: because people are asking me questions like
hope you're able to

892
00:19:35,929 --> 00:19:36,211
[kristy_durso]: here's

893
00:19:36,402 --> 00:19:36,586
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

894
00:19:36,875 --> 00:19:37,981
[kristy_durso]: here's the way i handle it

895
00:19:38,235 --> 00:19:38,255
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

896
00:19:39,198 --> 00:19:42,002
[kristy_durso]: i want you to see me i
want

897
00:19:42,081 --> 00:19:42,264
[derek_potheadparent_com]: point

898
00:19:42,223 --> 00:19:43,665
[kristy_durso]: you to ask me

899
00:19:43,643 --> 00:19:43,663
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

900
00:19:44,587 --> 00:19:45,087
[kristy_durso]: i want

901
00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:44,980
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

902
00:19:45,228 --> 00:19:45,328
[kristy_durso]: to

903
00:19:45,263 --> 00:19:45,485
[derek_potheadparent_com]: want

904
00:19:45,448 --> 00:19:45,869
[kristy_durso]: engage

905
00:19:45,606 --> 00:19:46,151
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to engage

906
00:19:45,989 --> 00:19:46,370
[kristy_durso]: with you

907
00:19:46,554 --> 00:19:46,675
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you

908
00:19:47,151 --> 00:19:47,612
[kristy_durso]: because the

909
00:19:47,651 --> 00:19:47,792
[derek_potheadparent_com]: as

910
00:19:47,852 --> 00:19:48,112
[kristy_durso]: more

911
00:19:47,852 --> 00:19:47,933
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

912
00:19:48,213 --> 00:19:48,293
[kristy_durso]: we

913
00:19:48,295 --> 00:19:48,436
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ore

914
00:19:48,373 --> 00:19:48,493
[kristy_durso]: can

915
00:19:48,517 --> 00:19:48,598
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we

916
00:19:48,673 --> 00:19:49,214
[kristy_durso]: do that

917
00:19:49,282 --> 00:19:49,645
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

918
00:19:49,936 --> 00:19:50,496
[kristy_durso]: the more we're

919
00:19:50,450 --> 00:19:50,630
[derek_potheadparent_com]: more

920
00:19:50,537 --> 00:19:50,737
[kristy_durso]: going

921
00:19:50,711 --> 00:19:50,811
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ere

922
00:19:50,797 --> 00:19:50,857
[kristy_durso]: to

923
00:19:50,871 --> 00:19:51,051
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going

924
00:19:50,897 --> 00:19:51,077
[kristy_durso]: build

925
00:19:51,112 --> 00:19:51,192
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

926
00:19:51,218 --> 00:19:51,979
[kristy_durso]: understanding

927
00:19:51,232 --> 00:19:52,555
[derek_potheadparent_com]: build an stand

928
00:19:52,119 --> 00:19:52,760
[kristy_durso]: and the more you're

929
00:19:52,736 --> 00:19:53,037
[derek_potheadparent_com]: more

930
00:19:52,820 --> 00:19:53,321
[kristy_durso]: going to

931
00:19:53,418 --> 00:19:53,778
[derek_potheadparent_com]: issue

932
00:19:54,123 --> 00:19:54,844
[kristy_durso]: realize

933
00:19:54,672 --> 00:19:55,161
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a lie

934
00:19:55,304 --> 00:19:56,206
[kristy_durso]: that just because

935
00:19:55,901 --> 00:19:56,523
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just because

936
00:19:56,306 --> 00:19:56,647
[kristy_durso]: i have a

937
00:19:56,644 --> 00:19:56,664
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

938
00:19:56,687 --> 00:19:57,388
[kristy_durso]: disability

939
00:19:56,745 --> 00:19:56,885
[derek_potheadparent_com]: have

940
00:19:57,568 --> 00:19:58,109
[kristy_durso]: that doesn't

941
00:19:57,910 --> 00:19:58,332
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that does

942
00:19:58,169 --> 00:19:58,450
[kristy_durso]: make me

943
00:19:58,493 --> 00:19:58,633
[derek_potheadparent_com]: me

944
00:19:58,550 --> 00:20:02,516
[kristy_durso]: less than it doesn't make me incapable
it doesn't

945
00:20:02,408 --> 00:20:02,870
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it doesn't

946
00:20:02,617 --> 00:20:03,097
[kristy_durso]: change

947
00:20:02,990 --> 00:20:03,492
[derek_potheadparent_com]: change

948
00:20:03,298 --> 00:20:03,839
[kristy_durso]: all the things

949
00:20:03,673 --> 00:20:03,833
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all

950
00:20:03,879 --> 00:20:04,139
[kristy_durso]: that i'm

951
00:20:04,114 --> 00:20:04,315
[derek_potheadparent_com]: things

952
00:20:04,519 --> 00:20:05,060
[kristy_durso]: able to

953
00:20:04,977 --> 00:20:05,258
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

954
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:09,346
[kristy_durso]: do a disability is like my hair
color you know

955
00:20:09,483 --> 00:20:09,643
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

956
00:20:10,218 --> 00:20:10,258
[kristy_durso]: i

957
00:20:10,284 --> 00:20:11,225
[derek_potheadparent_com]: truer

958
00:20:10,338 --> 00:20:15,727
[kristy_durso]: have brown eyes i have pale skin
and i can't walk and i have a

959
00:20:15,807 --> 00:20:16,148
[kristy_durso]: stomach

960
00:20:15,810 --> 00:20:16,031
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i have

961
00:20:16,228 --> 00:20:16,648
[kristy_durso]: that makes

962
00:20:16,674 --> 00:20:16,774
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

963
00:20:16,728 --> 00:20:16,809
[kristy_durso]: me

964
00:20:16,874 --> 00:20:17,055
[derek_potheadparent_com]: makes

965
00:20:16,889 --> 00:20:17,189
[kristy_durso]: not be

966
00:20:17,155 --> 00:20:17,216
[derek_potheadparent_com]: me

967
00:20:17,289 --> 00:20:17,450
[kristy_durso]: able

968
00:20:17,316 --> 00:20:17,436
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not

969
00:20:17,510 --> 00:20:17,570
[kristy_durso]: to

970
00:20:17,517 --> 00:20:17,617
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be

971
00:20:17,650 --> 00:20:17,750
[kristy_durso]: eat

972
00:20:17,697 --> 00:20:17,858
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

973
00:20:17,830 --> 00:20:18,011
[kristy_durso]: very

974
00:20:17,918 --> 00:20:18,159
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to eat

975
00:20:18,071 --> 00:20:18,271
[kristy_durso]: many

976
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:18,420
[derek_potheadparent_com]: very

977
00:20:18,351 --> 00:20:18,632
[kristy_durso]: things

978
00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:18,681
[derek_potheadparent_com]: many

979
00:20:18,772 --> 00:20:19,173
[kristy_durso]: and i have

980
00:20:19,163 --> 00:20:19,243
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

981
00:20:19,313 --> 00:20:19,814
[kristy_durso]: popcorn

982
00:20:19,324 --> 00:20:19,926
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i had a talk

983
00:20:19,934 --> 00:20:20,234
[kristy_durso]: brain

984
00:20:20,107 --> 00:20:21,246
[derek_potheadparent_com]: o yeah

985
00:20:21,657 --> 00:20:22,638
[kristy_durso]: and those are

986
00:20:22,611 --> 00:20:22,832
[derek_potheadparent_com]: those

987
00:20:22,718 --> 00:20:22,918
[kristy_durso]: just

988
00:20:22,912 --> 00:20:23,253
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are just

989
00:20:23,379 --> 00:20:23,839
[kristy_durso]: aspects

990
00:20:23,754 --> 00:20:24,195
[derek_potheadparent_com]: aspects

991
00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:24,460
[kristy_durso]: of me they

992
00:20:24,355 --> 00:20:24,415
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

993
00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:24,680
[kristy_durso]: don't

994
00:20:24,716 --> 00:20:24,816
[derek_potheadparent_com]: they

995
00:20:24,761 --> 00:20:25,261
[kristy_durso]: define

996
00:20:24,897 --> 00:20:25,899
[derek_potheadparent_com]: don't define

997
00:20:25,361 --> 00:20:26,342
[kristy_durso]: me they're not my

998
00:20:26,452 --> 00:20:26,553
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not

999
00:20:26,483 --> 00:20:27,063
[kristy_durso]: character

1000
00:20:26,614 --> 00:20:27,423
[derek_potheadparent_com]: my character

1001
00:20:27,584 --> 00:20:28,505
[kristy_durso]: they're just things

1002
00:20:28,271 --> 00:20:28,956
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just things

1003
00:20:28,645 --> 00:20:29,005
[kristy_durso]: that help

1004
00:20:29,137 --> 00:20:29,278
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

1005
00:20:29,146 --> 00:20:29,766
[kristy_durso]: describe

1006
00:20:29,339 --> 00:20:30,245
[derek_potheadparent_com]: help describe

1007
00:20:29,866 --> 00:20:32,489
[kristy_durso]: me that's it

1008
00:20:32,371 --> 00:20:37,459
[derek_potheadparent_com]: their ability is there are abilities that
no one else has and so instead of

1009
00:20:37,559 --> 00:20:38,661
[derek_potheadparent_com]: calling it a disability

1010
00:20:38,308 --> 00:20:38,328
[kristy_durso]: i

1011
00:20:38,701 --> 00:20:42,748
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and i feel that telling you know
you that online and showing it to

1012
00:20:42,732 --> 00:20:43,013
[kristy_durso]: showing

1013
00:20:42,788 --> 00:20:43,149
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the world

1014
00:20:43,094 --> 00:20:43,134
[kristy_durso]: it

1015
00:20:44,291 --> 00:20:44,792
[derek_potheadparent_com]: but it's like

1016
00:20:44,828 --> 00:20:45,012
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1017
00:20:45,252 --> 00:20:50,100
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah like we just really need to
say those words out loud that we want

1018
00:20:50,180 --> 00:20:51,903
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to embrace these

1019
00:20:51,793 --> 00:20:51,953
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1020
00:20:52,064 --> 00:20:57,393
[derek_potheadparent_com]: abilities that he has and you know
embrace the fact that you know jackson could

1021
00:20:57,430 --> 00:20:57,672
[kristy_durso]: cause

1022
00:20:57,653 --> 00:20:57,833
[derek_potheadparent_com]: see

1023
00:20:57,773 --> 00:20:58,400
[kristy_durso]: can see

1024
00:20:58,735 --> 00:21:03,683
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just as great and he has one
eye and you know is strong as

1025
00:21:03,738 --> 00:21:04,020
[kristy_durso]: strong

1026
00:21:03,743 --> 00:21:04,224
[derek_potheadparent_com]: an ox

1027
00:21:04,121 --> 00:21:04,704
[kristy_durso]: as an ox

1028
00:21:04,544 --> 00:21:14,381
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and is kind and beautiful happy and
as long as us parents excuse me as

1029
00:21:14,441 --> 00:21:20,231
[derek_potheadparent_com]: long as us parents you know really
hone in on all the beautiful things that

1030
00:21:20,291 --> 00:21:25,039
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he can do and what he will
be able to do i really think you

1031
00:21:25,079 --> 00:21:30,888
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know that's the key or please tell
me what's more what more do we need

1032
00:21:30,948 --> 00:21:32,130
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to do for our children

1033
00:21:31,973 --> 00:21:32,194
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1034
00:21:32,231 --> 00:21:34,635
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so that they feel that way and
then it's like

1035
00:21:35,055 --> 00:21:35,075
[kristy_durso]: i

1036
00:21:35,176 --> 00:21:36,298
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i don't know please tell me

1037
00:21:37,218 --> 00:21:37,479
[kristy_durso]: you know

1038
00:21:37,671 --> 00:21:37,771
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you

1039
00:21:37,859 --> 00:21:38,200
[kristy_durso]: i think

1040
00:21:38,274 --> 00:21:38,615
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i think

1041
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:39,061
[kristy_durso]: you're on the

1042
00:21:38,997 --> 00:21:39,158
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you're

1043
00:21:39,101 --> 00:21:39,262
[kristy_durso]: right

1044
00:21:39,279 --> 00:21:39,339
[derek_potheadparent_com]: on

1045
00:21:39,362 --> 00:21:39,622
[kristy_durso]: track

1046
00:21:39,399 --> 00:21:40,042
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the right track

1047
00:21:39,983 --> 00:21:43,949
[kristy_durso]: and that's more or less what i
believe don't i get to

1048
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:43,980
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1049
00:21:43,989 --> 00:21:49,078
[kristy_durso]: decide my limits you don't i get
to decide what i'm comfortable doing not one

1050
00:21:49,178 --> 00:21:50,701
[kristy_durso]: else you know there are certain

1051
00:21:50,612 --> 00:21:50,733
[derek_potheadparent_com]: there

1052
00:21:50,741 --> 00:21:51,081
[kristy_durso]: things i'm

1053
00:21:51,073 --> 00:21:51,133
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in

1054
00:21:51,141 --> 00:21:51,763
[kristy_durso]: never going to be

1055
00:21:51,795 --> 00:21:51,935
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going

1056
00:21:51,803 --> 00:21:51,963
[kristy_durso]: able

1057
00:21:51,995 --> 00:21:52,035
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

1058
00:21:52,023 --> 00:21:52,063
[kristy_durso]: to

1059
00:21:52,095 --> 00:21:52,155
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be

1060
00:21:52,123 --> 00:21:52,203
[kristy_durso]: do

1061
00:21:52,195 --> 00:21:52,215
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

1062
00:21:52,624 --> 00:21:53,425
[kristy_durso]: i'm never going to

1063
00:21:53,478 --> 00:21:53,698
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going

1064
00:21:53,486 --> 00:21:53,986
[kristy_durso]: be a runner

1065
00:21:53,758 --> 00:21:53,818
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

1066
00:21:55,779 --> 00:21:56,220
[kristy_durso]: but i can

1067
00:21:56,210 --> 00:21:56,311
[derek_potheadparent_com]: but

1068
00:21:56,300 --> 00:21:57,945
[kristy_durso]: still do a marathon in a wheel
chair

1069
00:21:58,694 --> 00:21:58,894
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

1070
00:21:59,069 --> 00:22:01,301
[kristy_durso]: i'm never going to be a downhill

1071
00:22:01,338 --> 00:22:01,518
[derek_potheadparent_com]: down

1072
00:22:01,402 --> 00:22:03,243
[kristy_durso]: skeer but i can do

1073
00:22:03,321 --> 00:22:03,341
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1074
00:22:03,323 --> 00:22:03,767
[kristy_durso]: adaptive

1075
00:22:03,422 --> 00:22:03,665
[derek_potheadparent_com]: can do

1076
00:22:03,868 --> 00:22:05,310
[kristy_durso]: scheme i'm

1077
00:22:05,310 --> 00:22:05,330
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1078
00:22:05,390 --> 00:22:07,200
[kristy_durso]: never going to be a surfer

1079
00:22:07,275 --> 00:22:07,596
[derek_potheadparent_com]: surfer

1080
00:22:07,281 --> 00:22:07,804
[kristy_durso]: on my feet

1081
00:22:07,697 --> 00:22:08,178
[derek_potheadparent_com]: on my eet

1082
00:22:08,768 --> 00:22:09,590
[kristy_durso]: i can do adaptive

1083
00:22:09,191 --> 00:22:09,414
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i can

1084
00:22:09,670 --> 00:22:12,337
[kristy_durso]: surfing so there yes there

1085
00:22:12,201 --> 00:22:12,441
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

1086
00:22:12,397 --> 00:22:12,497
[kristy_durso]: are

1087
00:22:12,542 --> 00:22:12,682
[derek_potheadparent_com]: there

1088
00:22:12,558 --> 00:22:12,758
[kristy_durso]: things

1089
00:22:12,782 --> 00:22:12,862
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are

1090
00:22:12,798 --> 00:22:12,919
[kristy_durso]: that

1091
00:22:12,942 --> 00:22:13,123
[derek_potheadparent_com]: things

1092
00:22:12,979 --> 00:22:13,340
[kristy_durso]: you won't

1093
00:22:13,183 --> 00:22:13,443
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that you

1094
00:22:13,721 --> 00:22:14,102
[kristy_durso]: be able

1095
00:22:14,085 --> 00:22:14,185
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be

1096
00:22:14,182 --> 00:22:14,262
[kristy_durso]: to

1097
00:22:14,285 --> 00:22:14,445
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

1098
00:22:14,322 --> 00:22:14,763
[kristy_durso]: do because

1099
00:22:14,546 --> 00:22:14,606
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

1100
00:22:14,803 --> 00:22:18,039
[kristy_durso]: you have a disability ut a disability

1101
00:22:17,693 --> 00:22:18,462
[derek_potheadparent_com]: disability

1102
00:22:18,861 --> 00:22:19,582
[kristy_durso]: doesn't make you

1103
00:22:19,790 --> 00:22:20,091
[derek_potheadparent_com]: maybe

1104
00:22:19,822 --> 00:22:23,709
[kristy_durso]: less than a disability means you need
a modification

1105
00:22:23,397 --> 00:22:24,159
[derek_potheadparent_com]: motion

1106
00:22:24,250 --> 00:22:25,051
[kristy_durso]: i may not be able

1107
00:22:25,083 --> 00:22:25,184
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not

1108
00:22:25,111 --> 00:22:25,291
[kristy_durso]: to do

1109
00:22:25,265 --> 00:22:25,346
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be

1110
00:22:25,392 --> 00:22:28,036
[kristy_durso]: traditional things but i am

1111
00:22:28,070 --> 00:22:28,090
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1112
00:22:28,357 --> 00:22:32,924
[kristy_durso]: able to see the world from my
perspective i am able

1113
00:22:32,843 --> 00:22:32,943
[derek_potheadparent_com]: am

1114
00:22:33,024 --> 00:22:33,125
[kristy_durso]: to

1115
00:22:33,144 --> 00:22:33,385
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

1116
00:22:33,225 --> 00:22:33,986
[kristy_durso]: experience

1117
00:22:33,465 --> 00:22:34,447
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to prince

1118
00:22:34,126 --> 00:22:39,355
[kristy_durso]: it fully from my perspective and my
capabilities

1119
00:22:38,706 --> 00:22:38,827
[derek_potheadparent_com]: my

1120
00:22:39,816 --> 00:22:44,419
[kristy_durso]: i have no problem the fact that
i have a disability what i have a

1121
00:22:44,499 --> 00:22:44,879
[kristy_durso]: problem

1122
00:22:44,574 --> 00:22:45,382
[derek_potheadparent_com]: how problem

1123
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:45,981
[kristy_durso]: with is when

1124
00:22:46,260 --> 00:22:46,401
[derek_potheadparent_com]: when

1125
00:22:46,362 --> 00:22:49,447
[kristy_durso]: other people choose to put their expectations

1126
00:22:48,912 --> 00:22:49,535
[derek_potheadparent_com]: expect

1127
00:22:49,647 --> 00:22:53,273
[kristy_durso]: of me on me and try to
define what i can

1128
00:22:53,184 --> 00:22:53,244
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he

1129
00:22:53,354 --> 00:22:59,043
[kristy_durso]: and can't do based on their comfort
level instead of my own comfort level and

1130
00:22:59,103 --> 00:22:59,344
[kristy_durso]: that's

1131
00:22:59,160 --> 00:22:59,280
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

1132
00:22:59,404 --> 00:23:02,970
[kristy_durso]: what we need to show our children
we talked to our son all the time

1133
00:23:02,846 --> 00:23:03,187
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i love

1134
00:23:03,651 --> 00:23:06,716
[kristy_durso]: our youngest we talked to all of
them about their disabilities

1135
00:23:06,420 --> 00:23:06,741
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no the

1136
00:23:06,756 --> 00:23:10,226
[kristy_durso]: and there have been time especially in
the tenth years where they really

1137
00:23:10,170 --> 00:23:10,230
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he

1138
00:23:10,366 --> 00:23:12,935
[kristy_durso]: struggled with being different and really

1139
00:23:13,082 --> 00:23:13,405
[derek_potheadparent_com]: really

1140
00:23:13,938 --> 00:23:17,460
[kristy_durso]: we're frustrated by it and i would
say you

1141
00:23:17,441 --> 00:23:17,461
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1142
00:23:17,500 --> 00:23:20,109
[kristy_durso]: know what these are just facts these
are

1143
00:23:20,190 --> 00:23:20,350
[derek_potheadparent_com]: he

1144
00:23:20,250 --> 00:23:20,470
[kristy_durso]: just

1145
00:23:20,470 --> 00:23:20,590
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are

1146
00:23:20,691 --> 00:23:20,972
[kristy_durso]: facts

1147
00:23:20,710 --> 00:23:20,931
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

1148
00:23:21,193 --> 00:23:23,561
[kristy_durso]: like you and i are talking on
the internet

1149
00:23:23,635 --> 00:23:23,776
[derek_potheadparent_com]: here

1150
00:23:23,642 --> 00:23:26,720
[kristy_durso]: that is just a fact we take
that data

1151
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:26,781
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

1152
00:23:27,401 --> 00:23:31,127
[kristy_durso]: we learn we learn from that data
and then we go

1153
00:23:31,068 --> 00:23:31,188
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

1154
00:23:31,227 --> 00:23:35,815
[kristy_durso]: and we make a way then we
make the accommodation then we build the bridge

1155
00:23:36,316 --> 00:23:37,117
[kristy_durso]: so that we're able

1156
00:23:37,076 --> 00:23:37,236
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we're

1157
00:23:37,197 --> 00:23:40,663
[kristy_durso]: to the things that we would like
to do we use

1158
00:23:40,420 --> 00:23:41,542
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we use

1159
00:23:41,024 --> 00:23:42,446
[kristy_durso]: the data rather than

1160
00:23:42,363 --> 00:23:42,624
[derek_potheadparent_com]: rather

1161
00:23:42,566 --> 00:23:42,827
[kristy_durso]: letting

1162
00:23:42,724 --> 00:23:42,844
[derek_potheadparent_com]: than

1163
00:23:42,867 --> 00:23:43,047
[kristy_durso]: that

1164
00:23:42,964 --> 00:23:43,465
[derek_potheadparent_com]: letting that

1165
00:23:43,367 --> 00:23:47,174
[kristy_durso]: data put us in a box we
use that data

1166
00:23:46,983 --> 00:23:47,586
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at data

1167
00:23:47,955 --> 00:23:49,740
[kristy_durso]: to figure out how to

1168
00:23:49,696 --> 00:23:49,837
[derek_potheadparent_com]: how

1169
00:23:50,162 --> 00:23:54,202
[kristy_durso]: achieve our goals and that's all there
is to it

1170
00:23:55,315 --> 00:23:56,979
[derek_potheadparent_com]: honestly you saying

1171
00:23:56,998 --> 00:23:57,239
[kristy_durso]: oh

1172
00:23:57,701 --> 00:24:00,166
[derek_potheadparent_com]: these words it's inspiring to people who

1173
00:24:00,499 --> 00:24:00,519
[kristy_durso]: i

1174
00:24:00,627 --> 00:24:02,660
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you know just

1175
00:24:02,878 --> 00:24:03,140
[kristy_durso]: oh

1176
00:24:02,961 --> 00:24:06,707
[derek_potheadparent_com]: living right they're just taking things day
by

1177
00:24:06,688 --> 00:24:07,012
[kristy_durso]: my

1178
00:24:06,827 --> 00:24:11,054
[derek_potheadparent_com]: day the stress of you know the
holidays or you know we're going through that

1179
00:24:11,094 --> 00:24:15,862
[derek_potheadparent_com]: right now and you know it's just
embraced ing the moment

1180
00:24:15,616 --> 00:24:15,636
[kristy_durso]: a

1181
00:24:16,043 --> 00:24:17,205
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's embracing

1182
00:24:17,259 --> 00:24:17,583
[kristy_durso]: oh

1183
00:24:17,345 --> 00:24:22,093
[derek_potheadparent_com]: these things that are going to happen
no matter what or going to happen you

1184
00:24:22,153 --> 00:24:22,293
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know

1185
00:24:22,198 --> 00:24:22,440
[kristy_durso]: oh

1186
00:24:22,413 --> 00:24:23,595
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and we have no control

1187
00:24:23,695 --> 00:24:23,837
[kristy_durso]: yes

1188
00:24:23,695 --> 00:24:25,078
[derek_potheadparent_com]: over them right and

1189
00:24:25,170 --> 00:24:25,753
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1190
00:24:25,258 --> 00:24:33,316
[derek_potheadparent_com]: doing what or we can with that
acknowledging it and just working with it working

1191
00:24:33,498 --> 00:24:34,120
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1192
00:24:33,516 --> 00:24:34,057
[derek_potheadparent_com]: through it

1193
00:24:35,262 --> 00:24:35,783
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1194
00:24:35,420 --> 00:24:35,741
[derek_potheadparent_com]: once we

1195
00:24:35,863 --> 00:24:35,964
[kristy_durso]: you

1196
00:24:35,901 --> 00:24:36,001
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are

1197
00:24:36,044 --> 00:24:36,144
[kristy_durso]: can

1198
00:24:36,162 --> 00:24:41,692
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able to you know take that and
work through it it's a game changer for

1199
00:24:41,913 --> 00:24:44,157
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so many in their lives any

1200
00:24:44,108 --> 00:24:44,730
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1201
00:24:44,338 --> 00:24:44,438
[derek_potheadparent_com]: one

1202
00:24:45,432 --> 00:24:46,234
[kristy_durso]: yes anybody

1203
00:24:46,181 --> 00:24:46,563
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

1204
00:24:46,374 --> 00:24:46,895
[kristy_durso]: everybody

1205
00:24:46,764 --> 00:24:47,266
[derek_potheadparent_com]: everybody

1206
00:24:47,878 --> 00:24:48,441
[kristy_durso]: has something

1207
00:24:48,481 --> 00:24:48,562
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

1208
00:24:48,501 --> 00:24:52,511
[kristy_durso]: to deal with some people it's a
disability some people

1209
00:24:52,586 --> 00:24:52,906
[derek_potheadparent_com]: people

1210
00:24:52,973 --> 00:24:55,020
[kristy_durso]: it not having

1211
00:24:54,831 --> 00:24:55,433
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not having

1212
00:24:55,220 --> 00:24:59,387
[kristy_durso]: the money that they need for certain
things some people it's their living conditions you

1213
00:24:59,528 --> 00:25:03,194
[kristy_durso]: you don't know what another person is
doing you can't control

1214
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:03,503
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and to

1215
00:25:03,615 --> 00:25:05,949
[kristy_durso]: your circumstances all that

1216
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:06,040
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all

1217
00:25:06,009 --> 00:25:11,030
[kristy_durso]: you can do is control how you
respond to them that's

1218
00:25:11,122 --> 00:25:11,423
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's

1219
00:25:11,190 --> 00:25:11,592
[kristy_durso]: where our

1220
00:25:11,563 --> 00:25:11,764
[derek_potheadparent_com]: where

1221
00:25:11,732 --> 00:25:14,322
[kristy_durso]: character comes in and that's what

1222
00:25:14,350 --> 00:25:14,451
[derek_potheadparent_com]: as

1223
00:25:14,422 --> 00:25:14,843
[kristy_durso]: matters

1224
00:25:14,531 --> 00:25:21,358
[derek_potheadparent_com]: what very true very very ignorance of
people nowadays is just like i'm sure you

1225
00:25:21,458 --> 00:25:22,580
[derek_potheadparent_com]: get this all the time

1226
00:25:22,528 --> 00:25:22,548
[kristy_durso]: m

1227
00:25:22,700 --> 00:25:26,106
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like i mean people literally walk by
our kin sen like this and i'm like

1228
00:25:26,017 --> 00:25:26,038
[kristy_durso]: m

1229
00:25:26,487 --> 00:25:26,587
[derek_potheadparent_com]: did

1230
00:25:26,548 --> 00:25:26,749
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1231
00:25:26,667 --> 00:25:27,669
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i walk up to you and say

1232
00:25:27,696 --> 00:25:27,838
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1233
00:25:27,809 --> 00:25:28,230
[derek_potheadparent_com]: hey you're

1234
00:25:28,220 --> 00:25:28,384
[kristy_durso]: okay

1235
00:25:28,370 --> 00:25:29,391
[derek_potheadparent_com]: your hair is real fucking

1236
00:25:29,188 --> 00:25:32,308
[kristy_durso]: yah

1237
00:25:29,472 --> 00:25:32,857
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ugly like well what's what is it
on your face like that's the exact same

1238
00:25:32,957 --> 00:25:34,019
[derek_potheadparent_com]: thing of like you're staring

1239
00:25:33,898 --> 00:25:33,918
[kristy_durso]: m

1240
00:25:34,059 --> 00:25:37,966
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at my kid like mind your business
if you got questions come and ask me

1241
00:25:38,026 --> 00:25:40,009
[derek_potheadparent_com]: if not shoot away like

1242
00:25:40,468 --> 00:25:40,628
[kristy_durso]: see

1243
00:25:40,550 --> 00:25:40,892
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just that

1244
00:25:40,989 --> 00:25:41,069
[kristy_durso]: and

1245
00:25:41,012 --> 00:25:41,233
[derek_potheadparent_com]: look

1246
00:25:41,129 --> 00:25:41,389
[kristy_durso]: that's

1247
00:25:41,313 --> 00:25:41,554
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you can

1248
00:25:41,490 --> 00:25:41,770
[kristy_durso]: where

1249
00:25:41,734 --> 00:25:42,697
[derek_potheadparent_com]: feel it hated

1250
00:25:43,473 --> 00:25:45,797
[kristy_durso]: and again you can't control that but
what you can

1251
00:25:45,686 --> 00:25:45,787
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

1252
00:25:45,877 --> 00:25:47,900
[kristy_durso]: do is control your response instead

1253
00:25:47,790 --> 00:25:47,971
[derek_potheadparent_com]: true

1254
00:25:47,940 --> 00:25:51,887
[kristy_durso]: of going i hate that go hey
do you have any questions for me

1255
00:25:52,779 --> 00:25:52,859
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we

1256
00:25:52,948 --> 00:25:53,188
[kristy_durso]: would you

1257
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:53,400
[derek_potheadparent_com]: has

1258
00:25:53,268 --> 00:25:54,010
[kristy_durso]: like to know more

1259
00:25:54,161 --> 00:25:59,730
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i like to insult people politely how
do i put that i try to answer

1260
00:25:59,830 --> 00:26:00,612
[derek_potheadparent_com]: question he

1261
00:26:00,748 --> 00:26:00,948
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1262
00:26:01,493 --> 00:26:04,378
[derek_potheadparent_com]: with an de but you'll see like
in the grocery store someone will look at

1263
00:26:04,418 --> 00:26:04,859
[derek_potheadparent_com]: him and i go

1264
00:26:05,147 --> 00:26:05,287
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1265
00:26:05,259 --> 00:26:09,246
[derek_potheadparent_com]: stop they're like oh you know whatever
and then someone always makes a stupid comment

1266
00:26:09,286 --> 00:26:09,907
[derek_potheadparent_com]: well at least he's got

1267
00:26:09,810 --> 00:26:09,933
[kristy_durso]: it

1268
00:26:10,027 --> 00:26:10,588
[derek_potheadparent_com]: one eye i go

1269
00:26:10,948 --> 00:26:11,210
[kristy_durso]: oh

1270
00:26:10,989 --> 00:26:15,777
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's i go first off he has
a physical deformity this part looks completely different

1271
00:26:15,797 --> 00:26:17,059
[derek_potheadparent_com]: than the other part go second off

1272
00:26:17,218 --> 00:26:17,481
[kristy_durso]: oh

1273
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,984
[derek_potheadparent_com]: do you know how many scrapes around
our walls and ships missing

1274
00:26:19,989 --> 00:26:20,151
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1275
00:26:20,024 --> 00:26:23,710
[derek_potheadparent_com]: off the wall because he runs into
things because he can't see from here over

1276
00:26:23,850 --> 00:26:25,132
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like he has to tilt

1277
00:26:25,028 --> 00:26:25,188
[kristy_durso]: there

1278
00:26:25,213 --> 00:26:25,293
[derek_potheadparent_com]: his

1279
00:26:25,248 --> 00:26:25,329
[kristy_durso]: is

1280
00:26:25,353 --> 00:26:25,473
[derek_potheadparent_com]: head

1281
00:26:25,449 --> 00:26:25,549
[kristy_durso]: no

1282
00:26:25,573 --> 00:26:25,914
[derek_potheadparent_com]: crooked

1283
00:26:25,710 --> 00:26:26,171
[kristy_durso]: at least

1284
00:26:26,034 --> 00:26:29,680
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like no it's like it's it's so
aggravating but it's just like

1285
00:26:29,691 --> 00:26:29,812
[kristy_durso]: my

1286
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,166
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you tell us people politely like like
just mind your business favorite

1287
00:26:33,129 --> 00:26:33,149
[kristy_durso]: i

1288
00:26:33,226 --> 00:26:38,074
[derek_potheadparent_com]: was someone told me he just stared
right my son like face to face it's

1289
00:26:38,134 --> 00:26:41,540
[derek_potheadparent_com]: always at the grocery store i don't
know what it is and it's always older

1290
00:26:42,001 --> 00:26:45,026
[derek_potheadparent_com]: people honestly a lot of the times
it's older people

1291
00:26:45,020 --> 00:26:45,161
[kristy_durso]: and he

1292
00:26:45,526 --> 00:26:49,373
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and he looked at me and then
was like his eyes look strong and i'm

1293
00:26:49,413 --> 00:26:49,554
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

1294
00:26:49,618 --> 00:26:49,898
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1295
00:26:49,634 --> 00:26:51,958
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like the funk like just

1296
00:26:52,302 --> 00:26:52,342
[kristy_durso]: i

1297
00:26:52,319 --> 00:26:52,459
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

1298
00:26:52,422 --> 00:26:52,602
[kristy_durso]: think

1299
00:26:52,559 --> 00:26:53,962
[derek_potheadparent_com]: turn around just freak out

1300
00:26:54,025 --> 00:26:54,065
[kristy_durso]: i

1301
00:26:54,042 --> 00:26:54,102
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

1302
00:26:54,125 --> 00:26:54,285
[kristy_durso]: think

1303
00:26:54,142 --> 00:26:54,543
[derek_potheadparent_com]: lid

1304
00:26:54,405 --> 00:26:58,492
[kristy_durso]: in that case he was trying he
realized what he was doing was wrong and

1305
00:26:58,552 --> 00:27:00,636
[kristy_durso]: didn't want to be insulting and was
trying

1306
00:27:00,696 --> 00:27:00,876
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1307
00:27:00,696 --> 00:27:04,669
[kristy_durso]: to think of something say that would
be encouraging my my husband

1308
00:27:04,548 --> 00:27:04,629
[derek_potheadparent_com]: my

1309
00:27:04,729 --> 00:27:04,890
[kristy_durso]: has

1310
00:27:04,749 --> 00:27:05,091
[derek_potheadparent_com]: husband

1311
00:27:04,950 --> 00:27:05,412
[kristy_durso]: a saying

1312
00:27:05,131 --> 00:27:05,271
[derek_potheadparent_com]: had

1313
00:27:06,998 --> 00:27:07,601
[kristy_durso]: that i really

1314
00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:07,661
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1315
00:27:07,661 --> 00:27:08,184
[kristy_durso]: really love

1316
00:27:08,124 --> 00:27:08,345
[derek_potheadparent_com]: really

1317
00:27:09,628 --> 00:27:10,771
[kristy_durso]: it's assume

1318
00:27:10,120 --> 00:27:10,140
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1319
00:27:11,372 --> 00:27:11,633
[kristy_durso]: good

1320
00:27:11,885 --> 00:27:11,965
[derek_potheadparent_com]: go

1321
00:27:12,134 --> 00:27:12,556
[kristy_durso]: intent

1322
00:27:13,663 --> 00:27:13,684
[derek_potheadparent_com]: m

1323
00:27:14,572 --> 00:27:15,056
[kristy_durso]: instead

1324
00:27:15,013 --> 00:27:15,074
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in

1325
00:27:15,479 --> 00:27:17,928
[kristy_durso]: of having

1326
00:27:17,901 --> 00:27:18,042
[derek_potheadparent_com]: how

1327
00:27:18,088 --> 00:27:21,391
[kristy_durso]: a chip on our shoulder about it
because we are going to get the stairs

1328
00:27:21,492 --> 00:27:22,312
[kristy_durso]: we know we're going

1329
00:27:22,327 --> 00:27:22,407
[derek_potheadparent_com]: oh

1330
00:27:22,352 --> 00:27:22,513
[kristy_durso]: to get

1331
00:27:22,487 --> 00:27:22,647
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1332
00:27:22,553 --> 00:27:22,973
[kristy_durso]: the stairs

1333
00:27:23,691 --> 00:27:23,772
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ah

1334
00:27:23,874 --> 00:27:24,595
[kristy_durso]: start with

1335
00:27:24,913 --> 00:27:25,054
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it

1336
00:27:25,315 --> 00:27:26,036
[kristy_durso]: assuming

1337
00:27:26,085 --> 00:27:26,146
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

1338
00:27:26,697 --> 00:27:26,937
[kristy_durso]: good

1339
00:27:27,463 --> 00:27:27,484
[derek_potheadparent_com]: s

1340
00:27:27,928 --> 00:27:28,331
[kristy_durso]: intent

1341
00:27:29,286 --> 00:27:29,729
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i needed

1342
00:27:29,759 --> 00:27:30,400
[kristy_durso]: everything

1343
00:27:29,769 --> 00:27:30,212
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that today

1344
00:27:31,241 --> 00:27:32,363
[kristy_durso]: is an opportunity

1345
00:27:32,034 --> 00:27:32,418
[derek_potheadparent_com]: oporto

1346
00:27:33,504 --> 00:27:34,766
[kristy_durso]: to help another person grow

1347
00:27:35,672 --> 00:27:37,836
[derek_potheadparent_com]: because you know people are curious they're
not sitting there looking

1348
00:27:37,658 --> 00:27:37,942
[kristy_durso]: yes

1349
00:27:37,876 --> 00:27:39,098
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at you at the funks wrong with
them like

1350
00:27:39,319 --> 00:27:40,288
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1351
00:27:39,659 --> 00:27:41,963
[derek_potheadparent_com]: they want to ask but they don't
know how and then when they

1352
00:27:41,938 --> 00:27:42,544
[kristy_durso]: exactly

1353
00:27:42,023 --> 00:27:44,647
[derek_potheadparent_com]: get caught like you're saying they're just
like the first thing that comes out of

1354
00:27:44,667 --> 00:27:46,510
[derek_potheadparent_com]: their mouth is like something stop and
then it's like

1355
00:27:46,768 --> 00:27:46,931
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1356
00:27:47,011 --> 00:27:49,255
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all right dud do you really want
to know what's going on or not just

1357
00:27:49,375 --> 00:27:51,138
[derek_potheadparent_com]: let's move on with life like this

1358
00:27:51,058 --> 00:27:51,279
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1359
00:27:51,318 --> 00:27:51,819
[derek_potheadparent_com]: is our son

1360
00:27:51,660 --> 00:27:51,740
[kristy_durso]: and

1361
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,485
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to i feel like is he's a
ball buster and this kid is only almost

1362
00:27:55,525 --> 00:27:56,467
[derek_potheadparent_com]: three years old like he

1363
00:27:56,548 --> 00:27:56,872
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1364
00:27:56,647 --> 00:27:58,851
[derek_potheadparent_com]: is i say stupid smart like idiots

1365
00:27:58,898 --> 00:27:59,100
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1366
00:27:59,091 --> 00:28:02,337
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like idiot savant like smart he's going
to

1367
00:28:02,342 --> 00:28:02,444
[kristy_durso]: ah

1368
00:28:02,377 --> 00:28:03,178
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be the kid like he's

1369
00:28:03,178 --> 00:28:04,528
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1370
00:28:03,198 --> 00:28:05,522
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going to catch you look at him
is gonna go got a problem like yeah

1371
00:28:05,562 --> 00:28:07,906
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i got one eye like what's up
like that's going to be him like i

1372
00:28:07,946 --> 00:28:09,749
[derek_potheadparent_com]: could just feel it and then his
little brother

1373
00:28:10,168 --> 00:28:11,008
[kristy_durso]: oh

1374
00:28:10,390 --> 00:28:11,512
[derek_potheadparent_com]: be right behind them for any

1375
00:28:11,398 --> 00:28:11,741
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1376
00:28:12,073 --> 00:28:13,716
[derek_potheadparent_com]: issues to take care of the he's
like the

1377
00:28:13,778 --> 00:28:13,920
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1378
00:28:13,796 --> 00:28:14,998
[derek_potheadparent_com]: crazy one who's like at

1379
00:28:15,058 --> 00:28:16,318
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1380
00:28:15,058 --> 00:28:18,283
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the crazy eyes and like really you're
looking at my brother like that

1381
00:28:18,273 --> 00:28:18,354
[kristy_durso]: ah

1382
00:28:18,564 --> 00:28:19,345
[derek_potheadparent_com]: okay you

1383
00:28:19,348 --> 00:28:19,588
[kristy_durso]: yea

1384
00:28:19,405 --> 00:28:21,308
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know it's the best that we that's

1385
00:28:21,233 --> 00:28:21,253
[kristy_durso]: i

1386
00:28:21,349 --> 00:28:21,489
[derek_potheadparent_com]: why

1387
00:28:21,374 --> 00:28:21,775
[kristy_durso]: love it

1388
00:28:21,990 --> 00:28:27,238
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you know we did have them close
together and as much as it's been

1389
00:28:27,568 --> 00:28:27,789
[kristy_durso]: oh

1390
00:28:27,579 --> 00:28:29,522
[derek_potheadparent_com]: hard in these toddlers

1391
00:28:29,008 --> 00:28:29,230
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1392
00:28:30,904 --> 00:28:32,788
[derek_potheadparent_com]: this the next like two years

1393
00:28:32,913 --> 00:28:32,934
[kristy_durso]: a

1394
00:28:32,928 --> 00:28:35,091
[derek_potheadparent_com]: still are it's good it's a struggle
it is

1395
00:28:35,368 --> 00:28:35,896
[kristy_durso]: oh

1396
00:28:35,592 --> 00:28:37,255
[derek_potheadparent_com]: they're learning their personalities

1397
00:28:37,211 --> 00:28:37,232
[kristy_durso]: m

1398
00:28:37,295 --> 00:28:38,096
[derek_potheadparent_com]: they're learning their

1399
00:28:38,107 --> 00:28:38,128
[kristy_durso]: m

1400
00:28:38,157 --> 00:28:39,399
[derek_potheadparent_com]: emotions they're

1401
00:28:39,374 --> 00:28:39,456
[kristy_durso]: ah

1402
00:28:39,559 --> 00:28:41,142
[derek_potheadparent_com]: learning who they are

1403
00:28:41,608 --> 00:28:41,910
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1404
00:28:41,823 --> 00:28:46,551
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and you know what they're going to
bring as they go to school they meet

1405
00:28:46,611 --> 00:28:52,240
[derek_potheadparent_com]: new friends as so what it all
is is you know us creating that foundation

1406
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:53,883
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at home for them and

1407
00:28:54,009 --> 00:28:54,553
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1408
00:28:54,083 --> 00:29:01,995
[derek_potheadparent_com]: your saying to just put that quick
i'm just assuming the best assuming the most

1409
00:29:02,096 --> 00:29:03,878
[derek_potheadparent_com]: positive i mean that

1410
00:29:03,907 --> 00:29:03,928
[kristy_durso]: m

1411
00:29:07,202 --> 00:29:07,503
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like we

1412
00:29:07,519 --> 00:29:07,740
[kristy_durso]: it's a

1413
00:29:07,743 --> 00:29:07,984
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all

1414
00:29:07,821 --> 00:29:08,061
[kristy_durso]: game

1415
00:29:08,164 --> 00:29:08,464
[derek_potheadparent_com]: need

1416
00:29:08,182 --> 00:29:08,664
[kristy_durso]: changer

1417
00:29:08,564 --> 00:29:10,007
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that everybody assumes

1418
00:29:09,788 --> 00:29:09,989
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1419
00:29:10,047 --> 00:29:14,815
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the negative not so quick for us
i want to assume people like i can

1420
00:29:14,995 --> 00:29:16,698
[derek_potheadparent_com]: read people pretty quick like your bull

1421
00:29:16,648 --> 00:29:18,538
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1422
00:29:16,738 --> 00:29:18,961
[derek_potheadparent_com]: shot i can smell it fast i've
been given that

1423
00:29:18,878 --> 00:29:19,059
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1424
00:29:19,141 --> 00:29:22,444
[derek_potheadparent_com]: god given ability thank god but you
know nd then you let some people get

1425
00:29:22,524 --> 00:29:23,185
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in and you're like okay

1426
00:29:23,008 --> 00:29:23,351
[kristy_durso]: oh

1427
00:29:23,245 --> 00:29:24,206
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i was still right i should

1428
00:29:24,178 --> 00:29:24,498
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1429
00:29:24,226 --> 00:29:25,768
[derek_potheadparent_com]: have not you know done that but
people

1430
00:29:25,721 --> 00:29:25,881
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1431
00:29:25,848 --> 00:29:29,814
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just in general are more i don't
know leave one to mire a business if

1432
00:29:29,854 --> 00:29:30,455
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you got questions and

1433
00:29:30,448 --> 00:29:30,691
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1434
00:29:30,495 --> 00:29:33,551
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you generally want to help or concern
as it's not

1435
00:29:33,791 --> 00:29:33,911
[kristy_durso]: i'm

1436
00:29:33,912 --> 00:29:33,992
[derek_potheadparent_com]: go

1437
00:29:33,971 --> 00:29:37,177
[kristy_durso]: going to assume you do i'm going
to go on the assumption even if i

1438
00:29:37,758 --> 00:29:41,544
[kristy_durso]: kind of have a nagging feeling that
you don't my first action

1439
00:29:41,581 --> 00:29:41,601
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

1440
00:29:41,825 --> 00:29:46,231
[kristy_durso]: is going to be you need to
know about this because i do

1441
00:29:46,301 --> 00:29:46,441
[derek_potheadparent_com]: right

1442
00:29:46,371 --> 00:29:47,974
[kristy_durso]: think everybody needs to know it's not

1443
00:29:48,183 --> 00:29:48,343
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not

1444
00:29:48,455 --> 00:29:53,082
[kristy_durso]: if we aren't opening up that door
they're not going to and then how are

1445
00:29:53,122 --> 00:29:55,406
[kristy_durso]: they going to understand it we have
to be

1446
00:29:55,340 --> 00:29:55,520
[derek_potheadparent_com]: have

1447
00:29:55,486 --> 00:29:55,767
[kristy_durso]: willing

1448
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:55,620
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

1449
00:29:55,827 --> 00:29:59,535
[kristy_durso]: to open up the door and talk
about the things i'll give you one of

1450
00:29:59,575 --> 00:30:04,509
[kristy_durso]: my i'd say my favorite examples but
it's really not a favorite it's kind of

1451
00:30:04,570 --> 00:30:07,618
[kristy_durso]: disgusting everybody

1452
00:30:07,741 --> 00:30:07,983
[derek_potheadparent_com]: body

1453
00:30:08,099 --> 00:30:11,123
[kristy_durso]: knows about autism now everybody

1454
00:30:11,193 --> 00:30:11,495
[derek_potheadparent_com]: body

1455
00:30:11,844 --> 00:30:16,685
[kristy_durso]: is working on becoming autism aware yeah
did you know artism

1456
00:30:16,341 --> 00:30:16,807
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you know at

1457
00:30:17,748 --> 00:30:18,770
[kristy_durso]: the official statistics

1458
00:30:18,250 --> 00:30:18,551
[derek_potheadparent_com]: official

1459
00:30:18,851 --> 00:30:20,074
[kristy_durso]: is it affects two percent of

1460
00:30:20,055 --> 00:30:20,356
[derek_potheadparent_com]: percent

1461
00:30:20,114 --> 00:30:20,776
[kristy_durso]: the population

1462
00:30:22,911 --> 00:30:23,112
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not know

1463
00:30:23,130 --> 00:30:24,028
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1464
00:30:23,173 --> 00:30:23,273
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

1465
00:30:24,408 --> 00:30:27,922
[kristy_durso]: feedle alcohol in drum affects almost six
percent

1466
00:30:29,524 --> 00:30:30,774
[derek_potheadparent_com]: three times the amount holy hell

1467
00:30:31,482 --> 00:30:33,130
[kristy_durso]: and how often are we

1468
00:30:33,122 --> 00:30:33,322
[derek_potheadparent_com]: is that

1469
00:30:33,231 --> 00:30:33,532
[kristy_durso]: talking

1470
00:30:33,382 --> 00:30:33,602
[derek_potheadparent_com]: talked

1471
00:30:33,592 --> 00:30:33,813
[kristy_durso]: about

1472
00:30:33,642 --> 00:30:33,823
[derek_potheadparent_com]: about

1473
00:30:33,894 --> 00:30:33,954
[kristy_durso]: it

1474
00:30:34,824 --> 00:30:34,885
[derek_potheadparent_com]: now

1475
00:30:35,058 --> 00:30:35,219
[kristy_durso]: we're

1476
00:30:35,105 --> 00:30:35,365
[derek_potheadparent_com]: were all

1477
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:35,482
[kristy_durso]: not

1478
00:30:35,405 --> 00:30:37,709
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the we actually

1479
00:30:37,451 --> 00:30:37,913
[kristy_durso]: so we don't

1480
00:30:37,829 --> 00:30:38,290
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i actually

1481
00:30:37,993 --> 00:30:38,635
[kristy_durso]: understand it

1482
00:30:39,552 --> 00:30:39,673
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's

1483
00:30:39,718 --> 00:30:40,927
[kristy_durso]: oh

1484
00:30:40,274 --> 00:30:47,445
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i would never i mean until us
talking about it right now it's not really

1485
00:30:47,566 --> 00:30:52,113
[derek_potheadparent_com]: something that's ever been brought up in
my life except for when i was in

1486
00:30:52,173 --> 00:30:55,779
[derek_potheadparent_com]: middle school there was a girl that
i went to you know school with she

1487
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:56,801
[derek_potheadparent_com]: same age is

1488
00:30:56,758 --> 00:30:56,778
[kristy_durso]: m

1489
00:30:56,861 --> 00:30:59,506
[derek_potheadparent_com]: me and law and order

1490
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:00,120
[kristy_durso]: we

1491
00:31:00,307 --> 00:31:05,516
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the show needed a girl with fetal
alcohol syndrum for their episode

1492
00:31:05,020 --> 00:31:05,382
[kristy_durso]: oh wow

1493
00:31:06,257 --> 00:31:06,657
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and she

1494
00:31:06,658 --> 00:31:06,862
[kristy_durso]: oh

1495
00:31:06,898 --> 00:31:09,690
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ended up being on show and

1496
00:31:09,609 --> 00:31:09,812
[kristy_durso]: wow

1497
00:31:09,791 --> 00:31:14,486
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i remember watching it because i never
understood her

1498
00:31:15,858 --> 00:31:16,768
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1499
00:31:16,031 --> 00:31:23,523
[derek_potheadparent_com]: um her struggles you know anything that
she yeah i had to deal with and

1500
00:31:23,683 --> 00:31:31,036
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so watching that episode you know and
cheering her on and now understanding her and

1501
00:31:31,577 --> 00:31:36,825
[derek_potheadparent_com]: then i mean i took that knowledge
you know until graduation with me

1502
00:31:37,539 --> 00:31:37,700
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1503
00:31:37,587 --> 00:31:42,855
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and prior to the if i wouldn't
have known unfortunately we were in that mean

1504
00:31:43,056 --> 00:31:47,904
[derek_potheadparent_com]: girl middle school age anyone who was
different i will say that i was not

1505
00:31:47,964 --> 00:31:55,036
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a perfect person as a kid growing
up because i was bullied so i immediately

1506
00:31:55,156 --> 00:31:59,844
[derek_potheadparent_com]: bullied or took down anything else or
tried to joke around or you know to

1507
00:31:59,904 --> 00:32:04,752
[derek_potheadparent_com]: make myself feel better at those times
and so i will say you know knowledge

1508
00:32:04,952 --> 00:32:06,755
[derek_potheadparent_com]: is power and so for

1509
00:32:06,619 --> 00:32:07,247
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1510
00:32:07,016 --> 00:32:12,893
[derek_potheadparent_com]: me to hear that almost three times
the out yeah that's insane and like that's

1511
00:32:12,939 --> 00:32:13,080
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1512
00:32:12,973 --> 00:32:16,890
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not something that is talked about at
all i could go down

1513
00:32:16,908 --> 00:32:17,048
[kristy_durso]: well

1514
00:32:16,971 --> 00:32:16,991
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

1515
00:32:17,128 --> 00:32:17,368
[kristy_durso]: i think

1516
00:32:17,231 --> 00:32:17,672
[derek_potheadparent_com]: rabbit hole

1517
00:32:17,729 --> 00:32:17,749
[kristy_durso]: a

1518
00:32:17,732 --> 00:32:17,832
[derek_potheadparent_com]: with

1519
00:32:17,869 --> 00:32:18,009
[kristy_durso]: big

1520
00:32:17,872 --> 00:32:18,033
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that

1521
00:32:18,750 --> 00:32:21,993
[kristy_durso]: a big part of that is because
it's a very shameful disease is preventable

1522
00:32:22,020 --> 00:32:25,950
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1523
00:32:22,254 --> 00:32:26,940
[kristy_durso]: autism isn't necessarily preventable photo alcoholism

1524
00:32:27,585 --> 00:32:27,926
[derek_potheadparent_com]: absolutely

1525
00:32:27,918 --> 00:32:31,043
[kristy_durso]: feudal alcohol and drum is one hundred
percent

1526
00:32:30,736 --> 00:32:30,876
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1527
00:32:31,824 --> 00:32:33,267
[kristy_durso]: preventable and it should

1528
00:32:33,103 --> 00:32:33,585
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it should

1529
00:32:33,908 --> 00:32:34,529
[kristy_durso]: we have to

1530
00:32:34,509 --> 00:32:34,730
[derek_potheadparent_com]: have

1531
00:32:34,609 --> 00:32:34,809
[kristy_durso]: talk

1532
00:32:34,810 --> 00:32:34,890
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

1533
00:32:34,869 --> 00:32:35,070
[kristy_durso]: about

1534
00:32:34,951 --> 00:32:35,131
[derek_potheadparent_com]: talk

1535
00:32:35,110 --> 00:32:35,350
[kristy_durso]: it more

1536
00:32:35,212 --> 00:32:35,372
[derek_potheadparent_com]: about

1537
00:32:35,450 --> 00:32:35,510
[kristy_durso]: in

1538
00:32:35,453 --> 00:32:35,493
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it

1539
00:32:35,571 --> 00:32:35,851
[kristy_durso]: order to

1540
00:32:35,794 --> 00:32:36,035
[derek_potheadparent_com]: in order

1541
00:32:35,911 --> 00:32:36,412
[kristy_durso]: understand

1542
00:32:36,135 --> 00:32:36,417
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to under

1543
00:32:36,492 --> 00:32:37,313
[kristy_durso]: it understand

1544
00:32:37,270 --> 00:32:37,652
[derek_potheadparent_com]: understand

1545
00:32:37,374 --> 00:32:37,654
[kristy_durso]: how those

1546
00:32:37,692 --> 00:32:37,772
[derek_potheadparent_com]: how

1547
00:32:37,714 --> 00:32:37,894
[kristy_durso]: kids

1548
00:32:37,812 --> 00:32:37,953
[derek_potheadparent_com]: those

1549
00:32:37,935 --> 00:32:38,015
[kristy_durso]: are

1550
00:32:38,034 --> 00:32:38,194
[derek_potheadparent_com]: kids

1551
00:32:38,055 --> 00:32:38,435
[kristy_durso]: effective

1552
00:32:38,275 --> 00:32:38,717
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are affected

1553
00:32:39,096 --> 00:32:41,621
[kristy_durso]: effected and to better be able to

1554
00:32:41,622 --> 00:32:41,803
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

1555
00:32:41,661 --> 00:32:42,082
[kristy_durso]: prevent

1556
00:32:41,843 --> 00:32:41,903
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to

1557
00:32:42,242 --> 00:32:44,527
[kristy_durso]: it but we don't talk about it

1558
00:32:45,042 --> 00:32:45,142
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

1559
00:32:45,488 --> 00:32:45,588
[kristy_durso]: the

1560
00:32:45,522 --> 00:32:45,542
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1561
00:32:45,748 --> 00:32:51,738
[kristy_durso]: more we talk about our struggles the
better we understand them ourselves and the better

1562
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:52,282
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the better

1563
00:32:51,978 --> 00:32:53,301
[kristy_durso]: those around us understand

1564
00:32:52,864 --> 00:32:53,447
[derek_potheadparent_com]: round under

1565
00:32:53,341 --> 00:32:58,050
[kristy_durso]: them and the better we can build
ways to solve struggles

1566
00:33:00,182 --> 00:33:01,724
[derek_potheadparent_com]: exactly what we're trying to do with
parents and

1567
00:33:01,725 --> 00:33:01,908
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1568
00:33:01,784 --> 00:33:04,549
[derek_potheadparent_com]: vats and just to talk about it
you know talk

1569
00:33:04,433 --> 00:33:05,035
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1570
00:33:04,609 --> 00:33:07,454
[derek_potheadparent_com]: about bad days good days what can
i do to get off of this get

1571
00:33:07,534 --> 00:33:08,515
[derek_potheadparent_com]: on this anything

1572
00:33:08,362 --> 00:33:08,383
[kristy_durso]: a

1573
00:33:08,576 --> 00:33:13,664
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i mean a b c d whatever
you we talked about earlier not to

1574
00:33:13,639 --> 00:33:13,739
[kristy_durso]: eh

1575
00:33:13,684 --> 00:33:16,849
[derek_potheadparent_com]: kind of change topics but you have
a group cruise you said coming up right

1576
00:33:17,359 --> 00:33:17,700
[kristy_durso]: yes

1577
00:33:17,450 --> 00:33:17,994
[derek_potheadparent_com]: at's that about

1578
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:21,085
[kristy_durso]: i'm so excited about it we this
past year

1579
00:33:21,122 --> 00:33:21,282
[derek_potheadparent_com]: last

1580
00:33:21,326 --> 00:33:21,346
[kristy_durso]: i

1581
00:33:21,382 --> 00:33:21,523
[derek_potheadparent_com]: year

1582
00:33:21,426 --> 00:33:21,786
[kristy_durso]: got to go

1583
00:33:21,763 --> 00:33:21,783
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1584
00:33:21,887 --> 00:33:23,149
[kristy_durso]: to alaska twice

1585
00:33:23,688 --> 00:33:24,210
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's sweet

1586
00:33:24,391 --> 00:33:29,619
[kristy_durso]: on holland america and bultrits were incredible
the first was with me husband holland hoasted

1587
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:33,826
[kristy_durso]: me and my husband and we got
to go to donal and we did all

1588
00:33:33,887 --> 00:33:40,097
[kristy_durso]: these amazing things to learn more about
the line and to experience alaska the second

1589
00:33:40,157 --> 00:33:45,005
[kristy_durso]: time went i went with the intent
of building out more accessible excursions and to

1590
00:33:45,085 --> 00:33:46,728
[kristy_durso]: start working with tour operators

1591
00:33:46,491 --> 00:33:46,954
[derek_potheadparent_com]: operator

1592
00:33:46,908 --> 00:33:51,696
[kristy_durso]: on how to better accommodate families with
disabilities of all kinds and to bring more

1593
00:33:51,796 --> 00:33:57,202
[kristy_durso]: awareness fact that people with disabilities want
to travel it's a fifty eight billion dollar

1594
00:33:57,302 --> 00:33:57,662
[kristy_durso]: industry

1595
00:33:57,532 --> 00:33:57,592
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

1596
00:33:57,742 --> 00:33:58,083
[kristy_durso]: already

1597
00:33:57,853 --> 00:33:58,173
[derek_potheadparent_com]: industry

1598
00:33:58,543 --> 00:33:59,884
[kristy_durso]: and very few of us are

1599
00:33:59,836 --> 00:33:59,896
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of

1600
00:33:59,964 --> 00:34:00,225
[kristy_durso]: willing

1601
00:34:00,257 --> 00:34:00,337
[derek_potheadparent_com]: are

1602
00:34:00,265 --> 00:34:00,625
[kristy_durso]: to travel

1603
00:34:00,437 --> 00:34:00,678
[derek_potheadparent_com]: willing

1604
00:34:00,725 --> 00:34:03,318
[kristy_durso]: because we're afraid we're not going to
be

1605
00:34:03,346 --> 00:34:03,487
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1606
00:34:03,398 --> 00:34:06,643
[kristy_durso]: accommodated if we start improving it and
more of us

1607
00:34:06,570 --> 00:34:06,710
[derek_potheadparent_com]: more

1608
00:34:06,723 --> 00:34:06,944
[kristy_durso]: travel

1609
00:34:06,770 --> 00:34:06,991
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of us

1610
00:34:07,064 --> 00:34:07,445
[kristy_durso]: just from

1611
00:34:07,411 --> 00:34:07,531
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

1612
00:34:07,505 --> 00:34:14,116
[kristy_durso]: a purely business perspective it's a wonderful
market for us to be tapping into you

1613
00:34:14,156 --> 00:34:16,647
[kristy_durso]: know then of course the right thing
to do so

1614
00:34:16,887 --> 00:34:17,027
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

1615
00:34:18,248 --> 00:34:19,389
[kristy_durso]: we put in all that work

1616
00:34:19,271 --> 00:34:19,551
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all that

1617
00:34:19,470 --> 00:34:19,650
[kristy_durso]: laid

1618
00:34:19,591 --> 00:34:19,751
[derek_potheadparent_com]: work

1619
00:34:19,690 --> 00:34:24,137
[kristy_durso]: the groundwork and so this summer my
whole family and i are going back to

1620
00:34:24,238 --> 00:34:32,351
[kristy_durso]: alaska july eight through fifteenth on the
holland coningstam and well have we have twenty

1621
00:34:32,391 --> 00:34:37,680
[kristy_durso]: six cabins reserved and i think we've
filled about half of them and if we

1622
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,545
[kristy_durso]: need more we can get more we
just need

1623
00:34:40,401 --> 00:34:40,583
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

1624
00:34:40,605 --> 00:34:45,571
[kristy_durso]: to know who wants to go and
the kind of disability doesn't matter if you

1625
00:34:45,671 --> 00:34:48,734
[kristy_durso]: don't have a disability but you'd like
to just come and have fun with us

1626
00:34:48,874 --> 00:34:53,229
[kristy_durso]: because we're a fun group we're well

1627
00:34:53,090 --> 00:34:53,370
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we

1628
00:34:53,469 --> 00:34:58,738
[kristy_durso]: we'd love to have you we'll be
going to juno alaska

1629
00:34:58,260 --> 00:34:58,380
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you

1630
00:34:58,938 --> 00:35:01,723
[kristy_durso]: ketchkin and skagway

1631
00:35:01,063 --> 00:35:01,183
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

1632
00:35:02,044 --> 00:35:03,546
[kristy_durso]: we've got whale watching

1633
00:35:03,366 --> 00:35:03,967
[derek_potheadparent_com]: launching

1634
00:35:03,766 --> 00:35:04,848
[kristy_durso]: kyak ing

1635
00:35:04,728 --> 00:35:05,289
[derek_potheadparent_com]: thing

1636
00:35:06,211 --> 00:35:06,471
[kristy_durso]: and

1637
00:35:06,330 --> 00:35:06,710
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1638
00:35:07,172 --> 00:35:12,501
[kristy_durso]: they've got the bearing sea crab fishing
tour they were on the deadliest catch so

1639
00:35:12,457 --> 00:35:12,577
[derek_potheadparent_com]: make

1640
00:35:12,681 --> 00:35:12,862
[kristy_durso]: we've

1641
00:35:12,918 --> 00:35:13,138
[derek_potheadparent_com]: rows

1642
00:35:12,922 --> 00:35:15,346
[kristy_durso]: got some yeah there re going to

1643
00:35:15,310 --> 00:35:15,430
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i've

1644
00:35:15,386 --> 00:35:15,606
[kristy_durso]: be some

1645
00:35:15,530 --> 00:35:15,791
[derek_potheadparent_com]: always

1646
00:35:15,726 --> 00:35:16,590
[kristy_durso]: really really or

1647
00:35:17,353 --> 00:35:19,217
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i've always wanted to go there because

1648
00:35:19,258 --> 00:35:21,898
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1649
00:35:19,337 --> 00:35:25,627
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's just one of those magical places
that i mean there's so much of unknown

1650
00:35:25,828 --> 00:35:26,469
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i feel like

1651
00:35:26,410 --> 00:35:26,610
[kristy_durso]: yes

1652
00:35:26,549 --> 00:35:30,896
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that many of us are not aware
of the beauty of lasca i know that's

1653
00:35:31,017 --> 00:35:32,880
[derek_potheadparent_com]: cheesy as hell but like literally that's
one

1654
00:35:32,901 --> 00:35:32,981
[kristy_durso]: oh

1655
00:35:32,940 --> 00:35:33,100
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of my

1656
00:35:33,041 --> 00:35:33,142
[kristy_durso]: it's

1657
00:35:33,180 --> 00:35:33,421
[derek_potheadparent_com]: bucket

1658
00:35:33,202 --> 00:35:33,703
[kristy_durso]: so true

1659
00:35:33,481 --> 00:35:33,822
[derek_potheadparent_com]: lists

1660
00:35:34,945 --> 00:35:39,813
[kristy_durso]: it's absolutely true i am not a
cold weather person my joints don't do well

1661
00:35:39,873 --> 00:35:40,514
[kristy_durso]: in the cold

1662
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:40,800
[derek_potheadparent_com]: oh

1663
00:35:40,654 --> 00:35:44,581
[kristy_durso]: i heard a lot more but i
would twice and i'm so excited to go

1664
00:35:44,801 --> 00:35:46,083
[kristy_durso]: back because

1665
00:35:45,870 --> 00:35:46,010
[derek_potheadparent_com]: wo

1666
00:35:46,143 --> 00:35:51,552
[kristy_durso]: i want to experience everything it's just
amazing it's the mountains

1667
00:35:51,370 --> 00:35:51,450
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

1668
00:35:51,632 --> 00:35:54,537
[kristy_durso]: are breath taking and to see the
wild life

1669
00:35:54,542 --> 00:35:54,823
[derek_potheadparent_com]: lie

1670
00:35:54,718 --> 00:35:57,202
[kristy_durso]: and to get to experience all the
things

1671
00:35:57,070 --> 00:35:57,331
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all the

1672
00:35:57,322 --> 00:36:02,170
[kristy_durso]: and to learn the history and the
culture it's a different culture they're part

1673
00:36:02,205 --> 00:36:02,346
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i'm

1674
00:36:02,230 --> 00:36:02,410
[kristy_durso]: of the

1675
00:36:02,406 --> 00:36:02,646
[derek_potheadparent_com]: sure

1676
00:36:02,531 --> 00:36:08,280
[kristy_durso]: u s but they've got a completely
different way of living on just beautiful

1677
00:36:07,910 --> 00:36:08,050
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you

1678
00:36:08,961 --> 00:36:13,649
[kristy_durso]: and really incredible so i'm so excited
to be able to go back and to

1679
00:36:13,729 --> 00:36:17,976
[kristy_durso]: bring people with me so we've got
this group tour and i'll send you a

1680
00:36:18,056 --> 00:36:19,999
[kristy_durso]: link to share if you want and
we'd love

1681
00:36:19,862 --> 00:36:20,103
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

1682
00:36:20,039 --> 00:36:20,280
[kristy_durso]: to have

1683
00:36:20,303 --> 00:36:20,784
[derek_potheadparent_com]: definitely

1684
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,463
[kristy_durso]: you guys come with us so

1685
00:36:22,367 --> 00:36:24,911
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i'd love to go to alaska be
now do you so you

1686
00:36:24,826 --> 00:36:25,066
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1687
00:36:25,452 --> 00:36:28,437
[derek_potheadparent_com]: do this on your website because you're
a travel agent as well right so if

1688
00:36:28,557 --> 00:36:29,298
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i let's say

1689
00:36:29,180 --> 00:36:29,482
[kristy_durso]: yes

1690
00:36:29,839 --> 00:36:32,804
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a man a char and i want
to go to alaska not this trip at

1691
00:36:32,864 --> 00:36:33,705
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a different one like do i

1692
00:36:33,718 --> 00:36:35,278
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1693
00:36:33,785 --> 00:36:35,949
[derek_potheadparent_com]: go on your site like how does
that whole process work

1694
00:36:36,168 --> 00:36:37,069
[kristy_durso]: ah you would just

1695
00:36:37,022 --> 00:36:37,123
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you

1696
00:36:37,109 --> 00:36:37,310
[kristy_durso]: go to

1697
00:36:37,344 --> 00:36:37,485
[derek_potheadparent_com]: just

1698
00:36:37,390 --> 00:36:38,752
[kristy_durso]: our site and fill out there

1699
00:36:38,652 --> 00:36:38,853
[derek_potheadparent_com]: love

1700
00:36:38,892 --> 00:36:42,358
[kristy_durso]: we have a link to get more
information and then we'll connect with you and

1701
00:36:42,418 --> 00:36:42,919
[kristy_durso]: figure out

1702
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:43,200
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

1703
00:36:43,380 --> 00:36:44,802
[kristy_durso]: where you want to go if you're
not sure

1704
00:36:44,622 --> 00:36:44,923
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you're not

1705
00:36:44,902 --> 00:36:45,043
[kristy_durso]: where

1706
00:36:45,023 --> 00:36:45,203
[derek_potheadparent_com]: sure

1707
00:36:45,083 --> 00:36:49,690
[kristy_durso]: you want to go but you know
you want to travel then we'll have a

1708
00:36:49,700 --> 00:36:49,861
[derek_potheadparent_com]: well

1709
00:36:49,730 --> 00:36:53,036
[kristy_durso]: conversation with you and help you figure
it out and i have a team of

1710
00:36:53,176 --> 00:36:58,785
[kristy_durso]: agents who work with me i have
a european specialist and all inclusive specialist a

1711
00:36:58,946 --> 00:37:04,315
[kristy_durso]: disney special bill disney is specialist so
we've got a little bit of everything the

1712
00:37:04,375 --> 00:37:07,260
[kristy_durso]: majority of my agency are prior military

1713
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:07,761
[derek_potheadparent_com]: very

1714
00:37:08,281 --> 00:37:14,079
[kristy_durso]: families and then we have adopted families
on i then we have families

1715
00:37:13,780 --> 00:37:14,121
[derek_potheadparent_com]: then we have

1716
00:37:14,119 --> 00:37:17,385
[kristy_durso]: with disabilities so you know we

1717
00:37:17,706 --> 00:37:17,726
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1718
00:37:18,046 --> 00:37:21,371
[kristy_durso]: do a lot with disabilities but we
also do a lot of military and adoptive

1719
00:37:21,411 --> 00:37:25,538
[kristy_durso]: families all three of these groups face
trauma and

1720
00:37:25,575 --> 00:37:25,936
[derek_potheadparent_com]: absolutely

1721
00:37:25,619 --> 00:37:28,245
[kristy_durso]: i want to kind of talk about
why that's so important to me

1722
00:37:28,906 --> 00:37:29,327
[derek_potheadparent_com]: absolutely

1723
00:37:30,443 --> 00:37:30,766
[kristy_durso]: i feel

1724
00:37:30,791 --> 00:37:30,811
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1725
00:37:30,867 --> 00:37:31,130
[kristy_durso]: like

1726
00:37:30,952 --> 00:37:31,636
[derek_potheadparent_com]: feel like i

1727
00:37:32,108 --> 00:37:34,011
[kristy_durso]: all of those three groups have something

1728
00:37:34,003 --> 00:37:34,326
[derek_potheadparent_com]: somethin

1729
00:37:34,592 --> 00:37:36,876
[kristy_durso]: in common which is we get so

1730
00:37:37,055 --> 00:37:37,195
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

1731
00:37:37,837 --> 00:37:40,061
[kristy_durso]: caught up in

1732
00:37:40,483 --> 00:37:40,503
[derek_potheadparent_com]: s

1733
00:37:41,063 --> 00:37:45,891
[kristy_durso]: taking care of the day to day
with military family is preparing for deployment being

1734
00:37:45,951 --> 00:37:48,916
[kristy_durso]: deployed all the things you have to
do while your spouse is deployed and then

1735
00:37:48,996 --> 00:37:53,183
[kristy_durso]: coming back and re integration and everything
else we get completely caught up in that

1736
00:37:53,243 --> 00:37:53,644
[kristy_durso]: process

1737
00:37:53,591 --> 00:37:54,720
[derek_potheadparent_com]: process

1738
00:37:53,724 --> 00:37:55,006
[kristy_durso]: and we forget

1739
00:37:55,383 --> 00:37:55,423
[derek_potheadparent_com]: s

1740
00:37:56,188 --> 00:38:01,276
[kristy_durso]: to take that time to rest and
recharge with adoptive families you're so focused on

1741
00:38:01,397 --> 00:38:02,519
[kristy_durso]: again integration

1742
00:38:02,141 --> 00:38:03,684
[derek_potheadparent_com]: nratiuilding

1743
00:38:02,819 --> 00:38:03,921
[kristy_durso]: and building that family

1744
00:38:03,944 --> 00:38:04,265
[derek_potheadparent_com]: family

1745
00:38:04,001 --> 00:38:04,422
[kristy_durso]: bond

1746
00:38:04,325 --> 00:38:04,726
[derek_potheadparent_com]: bond

1747
00:38:04,562 --> 00:38:05,704
[kristy_durso]: and going to therapies

1748
00:38:05,487 --> 00:38:05,888
[derek_potheadparent_com]: therapy

1749
00:38:06,185 --> 00:38:06,786
[kristy_durso]: we forget

1750
00:38:06,950 --> 00:38:07,110
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1751
00:38:07,527 --> 00:38:13,697
[kristy_durso]: to take time to rest and restore
and then again with our families with disabilities

1752
00:38:13,757 --> 00:38:18,105
[kristy_durso]: we're going from appointment to point appointment
therapy to therapy i p meetings to i

1753
00:38:18,305 --> 00:38:19,667
[kristy_durso]: p meetings and we forget

1754
00:38:19,838 --> 00:38:20,038
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

1755
00:38:21,008 --> 00:38:27,459
[kristy_durso]: rest and restore but we need that
time it is critical for us to take

1756
00:38:27,519 --> 00:38:29,242
[kristy_durso]: that time when we take that

1757
00:38:29,266 --> 00:38:29,466
[derek_potheadparent_com]: take

1758
00:38:29,302 --> 00:38:31,485
[kristy_durso]: time to rest and restore

1759
00:38:31,332 --> 00:38:31,413
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the

1760
00:38:32,126 --> 00:38:35,874
[kristy_durso]: we're able focus on building core memories
and we're able

1761
00:38:35,781 --> 00:38:35,923
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we're

1762
00:38:35,974 --> 00:38:36,055
[kristy_durso]: to

1763
00:38:36,044 --> 00:38:36,246
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able

1764
00:38:36,175 --> 00:38:36,476
[kristy_durso]: build

1765
00:38:36,388 --> 00:38:36,873
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to build

1766
00:38:37,678 --> 00:38:38,138
[kristy_durso]: time to

1767
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:38,180
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i

1768
00:38:38,219 --> 00:38:38,639
[kristy_durso]: connect

1769
00:38:38,300 --> 00:38:38,360
[derek_potheadparent_com]: am

1770
00:38:38,779 --> 00:38:42,085
[kristy_durso]: with one another in a way that
we can't do when we're rushing from one

1771
00:38:42,145 --> 00:38:47,995
[kristy_durso]: thing to another and that's where we
make our family bonds stronger and it's when

1772
00:38:48,095 --> 00:38:52,362
[kristy_durso]: we take that time and we build
those connections and we build those core memories

1773
00:38:52,843 --> 00:38:55,207
[kristy_durso]: that we really truly develop who we
are

1774
00:38:55,659 --> 00:38:55,679
[derek_potheadparent_com]: a

1775
00:38:55,688 --> 00:38:56,249
[kristy_durso]: and then

1776
00:38:56,020 --> 00:38:56,120
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

1777
00:38:56,729 --> 00:38:57,691
[kristy_durso]: we're able to take

1778
00:38:57,524 --> 00:38:57,825
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able to

1779
00:38:57,891 --> 00:38:58,052
[kristy_durso]: all

1780
00:38:57,925 --> 00:38:58,186
[derek_potheadparent_com]: chase

1781
00:38:58,112 --> 00:38:58,492
[kristy_durso]: of that

1782
00:38:58,447 --> 00:38:58,567
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all

1783
00:38:59,133 --> 00:39:03,160
[kristy_durso]: and face those hard days that just
more than we

1784
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:03,321
[derek_potheadparent_com]: more

1785
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:03,481
[kristy_durso]: feel

1786
00:39:03,361 --> 00:39:03,482
[derek_potheadparent_com]: than

1787
00:39:03,521 --> 00:39:03,661
[kristy_durso]: like

1788
00:39:03,623 --> 00:39:03,704
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we

1789
00:39:03,721 --> 00:39:03,961
[kristy_durso]: we can

1790
00:39:04,026 --> 00:39:04,187
[derek_potheadparent_com]: like

1791
00:39:04,062 --> 00:39:06,486
[kristy_durso]: sometimes even bear and by taking

1792
00:39:06,430 --> 00:39:06,510
[derek_potheadparent_com]: my

1793
00:39:06,546 --> 00:39:06,686
[kristy_durso]: that

1794
00:39:06,610 --> 00:39:06,891
[derek_potheadparent_com]: team

1795
00:39:06,726 --> 00:39:12,035
[kristy_durso]: time to focus on connection we're able
to pass off some of the burden with

1796
00:39:12,095 --> 00:39:16,424
[kristy_durso]: our families and where we'll just share
that burden together and move forward because we

1797
00:39:16,664 --> 00:39:16,885
[kristy_durso]: know

1798
00:39:17,127 --> 00:39:17,228
[derek_potheadparent_com]: no

1799
00:39:18,818 --> 00:39:19,538
[kristy_durso]: that we have

1800
00:39:19,410 --> 00:39:20,011
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we have

1801
00:39:19,919 --> 00:39:21,921
[kristy_durso]: something to look forward to we know

1802
00:39:22,114 --> 00:39:22,294
[derek_potheadparent_com]: now

1803
00:39:22,661 --> 00:39:23,202
[kristy_durso]: that we have

1804
00:39:23,055 --> 00:39:23,296
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that we

1805
00:39:23,262 --> 00:39:23,442
[kristy_durso]: these

1806
00:39:23,396 --> 00:39:23,576
[derek_potheadparent_com]: have

1807
00:39:23,542 --> 00:39:25,805
[kristy_durso]: people connected with us and we

1808
00:39:25,830 --> 00:39:26,030
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yeah

1809
00:39:26,045 --> 00:39:27,947
[kristy_durso]: know that there are better days ahead

1810
00:39:29,115 --> 00:39:29,235
[derek_potheadparent_com]: uh

1811
00:39:29,521 --> 00:39:29,704
[kristy_durso]: that

1812
00:39:29,876 --> 00:39:30,658
[derek_potheadparent_com]: clearly you're hitting

1813
00:39:30,658 --> 00:39:30,818
[kristy_durso]: oh

1814
00:39:30,718 --> 00:39:34,344
[derek_potheadparent_com]: me used a bunch of you had
so many nails on

1815
00:39:34,327 --> 00:39:34,348
[kristy_durso]: h

1816
00:39:34,404 --> 00:39:38,691
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the head for us you know we
are a military family derrick being a veteran

1817
00:39:38,911 --> 00:39:41,616
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and you know we openly discuss we
both suffer from

1818
00:39:41,548 --> 00:39:42,178
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1819
00:39:41,656 --> 00:39:43,960
[derek_potheadparent_com]: p t s t is is different
than mine

1820
00:39:44,518 --> 00:39:44,723
[kristy_durso]: oh

1821
00:39:44,721 --> 00:39:48,006
[derek_potheadparent_com]: but you know with me having it
it's the kids and what we've been through

1822
00:39:48,026 --> 00:39:51,637
[derek_potheadparent_com]: with them my past traumas ever he's
got his own

1823
00:39:51,728 --> 00:39:51,930
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1824
00:39:51,758 --> 00:39:58,096
[derek_potheadparent_com]: shipless and it's like i i feel
like even just being a mom is a

1825
00:39:58,156 --> 00:39:59,578
[derek_potheadparent_com]: category right like

1826
00:39:59,502 --> 00:39:59,602
[kristy_durso]: oh

1827
00:39:59,659 --> 00:39:59,899
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's

1828
00:39:59,742 --> 00:40:00,424
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1829
00:39:59,979 --> 00:40:04,668
[derek_potheadparent_com]: what our pa head parent is part
of you know being and it's just you

1830
00:40:04,728 --> 00:40:09,278
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know hearing you talk about the fact
that a shower

1831
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:10,481
[kristy_durso]: ah

1832
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:17,407
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going to the gym going to the
grocery store um going for a walk those

1833
00:40:17,487 --> 00:40:20,560
[derek_potheadparent_com]: aren't those aren't vacations those

1834
00:40:20,549 --> 00:40:20,631
[kristy_durso]: no

1835
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:26,490
[derek_potheadparent_com]: aren't those are just day to day
things to get us there right on top

1836
00:40:26,610 --> 00:40:26,870
[derek_potheadparent_com]: of the

1837
00:40:26,788 --> 00:40:27,538
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1838
00:40:26,910 --> 00:40:27,572
[derek_potheadparent_com]: messes that

1839
00:40:27,568 --> 00:40:27,588
[kristy_durso]: m

1840
00:40:27,632 --> 00:40:29,435
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we have to you know contain

1841
00:40:29,248 --> 00:40:29,938
[kristy_durso]: oh

1842
00:40:30,116 --> 00:40:35,946
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and it's like we consider those being
something that are you know our vacations our

1843
00:40:36,046 --> 00:40:36,426
[derek_potheadparent_com]: moments

1844
00:40:36,208 --> 00:40:36,408
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1845
00:40:36,526 --> 00:40:38,510
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to ourselves instead of you know

1846
00:40:38,417 --> 00:40:38,518
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1847
00:40:38,991 --> 00:40:45,182
[derek_potheadparent_com]: really embracing the fact that no memories
are being made because we're so st because

1848
00:40:45,262 --> 00:40:51,037
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we have so much going on that
it's like we need to start readjusting you

1849
00:40:51,117 --> 00:40:57,328
[derek_potheadparent_com]: know christmases our holidays our birthdays our
gift giving right and maybe

1850
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:57,444
[kristy_durso]: yes

1851
00:40:57,468 --> 00:41:02,717
[derek_potheadparent_com]: start seeing about you know maybe saving
up and start

1852
00:41:02,818 --> 00:41:03,120
[kristy_durso]: oh

1853
00:41:03,238 --> 00:41:05,322
[derek_potheadparent_com]: going on v then and

1854
00:41:05,378 --> 00:41:05,541
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1855
00:41:05,462 --> 00:41:10,751
[derek_potheadparent_com]: taking in these moments and these memories
with our children or our significant others because

1856
00:41:10,811 --> 00:41:16,500
[derek_potheadparent_com]: this needs this needs just as much
work on a consistent basis then you know

1857
00:41:16,701 --> 00:41:20,166
[derek_potheadparent_com]: the whole family situations too i do
think that

1858
00:41:20,138 --> 00:41:20,722
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1859
00:41:20,206 --> 00:41:21,188
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that is huge

1860
00:41:21,508 --> 00:41:22,918
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1861
00:41:21,809 --> 00:41:26,056
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and so you know we used to
do that all the time before we got

1862
00:41:26,136 --> 00:41:29,781
[derek_potheadparent_com]: married before we and then had kids
you know and it's like

1863
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:29,923
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1864
00:41:30,422 --> 00:41:34,806
[derek_potheadparent_com]: there was that was a different moment
and a different time of stress and then

1865
00:41:34,986 --> 00:41:37,869
[derek_potheadparent_com]: now it's like we need it more
than ever

1866
00:41:38,744 --> 00:41:38,986
[kristy_durso]: yes

1867
00:41:38,890 --> 00:41:39,310
[derek_potheadparent_com]: more than

1868
00:41:39,288 --> 00:41:39,892
[kristy_durso]: absolutely

1869
00:41:39,511 --> 00:41:46,442
[derek_potheadparent_com]: ever so taking and readjusting what values
us um

1870
00:41:46,858 --> 00:41:46,878
[kristy_durso]: m

1871
00:41:46,863 --> 00:41:50,449
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and it's not monetary things any more
i think it's really the

1872
00:41:50,407 --> 00:41:50,428
[kristy_durso]: m

1873
00:41:50,509 --> 00:41:55,077
[derek_potheadparent_com]: memory is that we're trying to make
and so being able to talk to you

1874
00:41:55,698 --> 00:41:56,299
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and hear

1875
00:41:56,428 --> 00:41:56,610
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1876
00:41:56,639 --> 00:41:57,100
[derek_potheadparent_com]: all of your

1877
00:41:57,298 --> 00:41:57,318
[kristy_durso]: m

1878
00:41:57,340 --> 00:42:02,790
[derek_potheadparent_com]: stories and i don't want to say
struggles but you know difficulties or you know

1879
00:42:03,511 --> 00:42:08,118
[derek_potheadparent_com]: stop science that you know we just
yield at right or just rolling through those

1880
00:42:08,008 --> 00:42:08,229
[kristy_durso]: oh

1881
00:42:08,279 --> 00:42:14,249
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's it's what you've done with everything
that you have been through what your children

1882
00:42:14,349 --> 00:42:19,497
[derek_potheadparent_com]: go through and then taking it and
evolving it into something that you have whether

1883
00:42:19,557 --> 00:42:26,409
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it's with travel or just education or
whatever it is has been amazing to

1884
00:42:26,589 --> 00:42:26,610
[kristy_durso]: a

1885
00:42:26,910 --> 00:42:29,694
[derek_potheadparent_com]: able to you know sit down and
talk to you fully and

1886
00:42:29,728 --> 00:42:29,996
[kristy_durso]: oh

1887
00:42:29,795 --> 00:42:32,880
[derek_potheadparent_com]: not you know just take you as
that bad ass warrior

1888
00:42:32,668 --> 00:42:32,950
[kristy_durso]: oh

1889
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,364
[derek_potheadparent_com]: but there's just so many more layers

1890
00:42:35,428 --> 00:42:35,652
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1891
00:42:35,464 --> 00:42:38,990
[derek_potheadparent_com]: on top of that that make you
you and to

1892
00:42:38,938 --> 00:42:39,220
[kristy_durso]: oh

1893
00:42:39,110 --> 00:42:42,997
[derek_potheadparent_com]: thank you from the bottom of our
heart for having you know come on our

1894
00:42:43,097 --> 00:42:46,262
[derek_potheadparent_com]: show and we are the pod head
parents

1895
00:42:46,231 --> 00:42:46,333
[kristy_durso]: ah

1896
00:42:46,322 --> 00:42:49,808
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that is a taboo or a little
controversial in some and that

1897
00:42:49,789 --> 00:42:49,973
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1898
00:42:49,848 --> 00:42:53,955
[derek_potheadparent_com]: didn't mean anything to and i feel
like that's what we all need to be

1899
00:42:54,148 --> 00:42:54,393
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1900
00:42:54,215 --> 00:42:58,442
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's what we all need to hold
our find people like you

1901
00:42:58,828 --> 00:42:59,788
[kristy_durso]: oh

1902
00:42:59,344 --> 00:43:04,419
[derek_potheadparent_com]: to be rolled models honestly and i
really appreci you being on the show thank

1903
00:43:04,459 --> 00:43:05,626
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you very much thank you

1904
00:43:06,559 --> 00:43:09,624
[kristy_durso]: thank you so much for having me
it's been such a pleasure to get to

1905
00:43:09,684 --> 00:43:10,145
[kristy_durso]: talk to you

1906
00:43:10,726 --> 00:43:13,752
[derek_potheadparent_com]: we'd love to have you again and
then just talk about know whatever happened in

1907
00:43:13,812 --> 00:43:18,630
[derek_potheadparent_com]: between that time period but also again
just talking about mental health and kids and

1908
00:43:18,731 --> 00:43:19,231
[derek_potheadparent_com]: life and

1909
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:19,303
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1910
00:43:19,913 --> 00:43:20,674
[derek_potheadparent_com]: military problems

1911
00:43:20,450 --> 00:43:20,633
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1912
00:43:20,734 --> 00:43:21,595
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and anything you want would

1913
00:43:21,538 --> 00:43:22,228
[kristy_durso]: yah

1914
00:43:21,635 --> 00:43:22,777
[derek_potheadparent_com]: check a lot of buckets or a

1915
00:43:22,968 --> 00:43:23,173
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1916
00:43:23,018 --> 00:43:25,983
[derek_potheadparent_com]: lot of list which was good but
again thank you very much it was a

1917
00:43:26,043 --> 00:43:29,348
[derek_potheadparent_com]: pleasure meeting you at the mid conference
and then staying in touch with you during

1918
00:43:29,388 --> 00:43:32,697
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that time period um just one last
time where can everybody get all of your

1919
00:43:32,777 --> 00:43:33,198
[derek_potheadparent_com]: info out

1920
00:43:34,619 --> 00:43:35,660
[kristy_durso]: incredible memories

1921
00:43:35,602 --> 00:43:35,983
[derek_potheadparent_com]: memory

1922
00:43:35,821 --> 00:43:36,201
[kristy_durso]: travel

1923
00:43:36,224 --> 00:43:36,565
[derek_potheadparent_com]: rule

1924
00:43:36,402 --> 00:43:36,943
[kristy_durso]: dot com

1925
00:43:36,746 --> 00:43:37,287
[derek_potheadparent_com]: dot com

1926
00:43:38,064 --> 00:43:38,525
[kristy_durso]: and i'm

1927
00:43:38,500 --> 00:43:38,620
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and

1928
00:43:38,605 --> 00:43:38,846
[kristy_durso]: also

1929
00:43:38,820 --> 00:43:39,261
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i also

1930
00:43:39,106 --> 00:43:44,876
[kristy_durso]: on instagram as christie goes and you
can also look at my facebook page under

1931
00:43:44,936 --> 00:43:48,522
[kristy_durso]: miss will chair text s where i
talk about accessibility issues and the things that

1932
00:43:48,562 --> 00:43:49,042
[kristy_durso]: we're doing

1933
00:43:49,950 --> 00:43:50,213
[derek_potheadparent_com]: yes

1934
00:43:50,705 --> 00:43:51,226
[kristy_durso]: to help

1935
00:43:51,141 --> 00:43:51,222
[derek_potheadparent_com]: you

1936
00:43:51,326 --> 00:43:51,667
[kristy_durso]: improve

1937
00:43:51,445 --> 00:43:51,750
[derek_potheadparent_com]: help them

1938
00:43:52,528 --> 00:43:53,329
[kristy_durso]: accessibility here

1939
00:43:53,370 --> 00:43:53,470
[derek_potheadparent_com]: so

1940
00:43:53,389 --> 00:43:56,052
[kristy_durso]: in the state of texas and to
bring more awareness so

1941
00:43:56,114 --> 00:43:56,295
[derek_potheadparent_com]: that's

1942
00:43:56,192 --> 00:43:56,473
[kristy_durso]: i didn't

1943
00:43:56,355 --> 00:43:56,655
[derek_potheadparent_com]: awesome

1944
00:43:56,493 --> 00:43:59,497
[kristy_durso]: mention that earlier but i am izwillchair
texas so

1945
00:43:59,380 --> 00:44:00,661
[derek_potheadparent_com]: i love that we're going to dive

1946
00:44:00,679 --> 00:44:00,700
[kristy_durso]: i

1947
00:44:00,721 --> 00:44:01,502
[derek_potheadparent_com]: into that next time

1948
00:44:01,558 --> 00:44:01,900
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1949
00:44:01,562 --> 00:44:02,963
[derek_potheadparent_com]: for sure absolutely but

1950
00:44:02,946 --> 00:44:03,368
[kristy_durso]: okay

1951
00:44:03,044 --> 00:44:04,205
[derek_potheadparent_com]: thank you again very much

1952
00:44:05,079 --> 00:44:05,281
[kristy_durso]: yeah

1953
00:44:05,206 --> 00:44:07,689
[derek_potheadparent_com]: and then guys we'll see you next
episode thank you thank you

1954
00:44:07,718 --> 00:44:08,420
[kristy_durso]: thank you again

1955
00:44:11,164 --> 00:44:11,264
[derek_potheadparent_com]: it